When is the best time to stop assuming someone likes you the way you like them?

[Anonymous]

He's always implied he likes me. We've kissed and cuddled but nothing more. He blows hot and cold. Some days I feel disguarded by him. When is the best time to stop assuming someone likes you and wants to spend time with you?

[quaranta]

In a comment here you say he replied with "a feeling is a feeling", which probably means he doesn't want to do anything specific with that feeling, he just enjoyed what he did with you for that time and that's it with no vision for the future or for a closer bond. If this is true then yeah, he likes you, but that doesn't mean he wants a relationship with you. If you want a relationship then you should talk about what you want with each other and if you discover you're not on the same wave then yeah you should leave. While if he wants to start a relationship he will just behave like so, with concrete signs to willingly improve your bond, taking you on dates, spending a lot of time talking together to know you better and to participate in each other's life. If he is not doing these things then chances are he doesn't want a relationship with you.

[Asker]

That makes total sense. You've helped me to put things into perspective. Thank you

[Guy13]

Sounds like now and go on about your Business without him. Be polite but not hot for him.

[Asker]

Should I just pull away completely or talk to him about it?
I once mentioned about him blowing and cold cold, and told him it seemed like he didn't want me in his life. But he said a feeling is just a feeling. Doesn't mean it's true. Which confused me more. My gut feeling is based on his behavior towards me 😕

[In_Trance]

immediately