She is hesitant about staying the night with me early?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this girl since the beginning of November. We already been on 3-4 dates. She even visited me on Thanksgiving. We kissed and everything except sex. She’s tells me that she’s interested in me and thinks about me a lot. But she tries to suppress that. She’s been in a toxic relationship with her ex/father of her child. He talked down on her and called her a hoe and things.

So she booked a room for us tomorrow. She said that she’s excited and can’t wait to see me. But she’s hesitant to stay the night with me cause it’s too early. What does that mean?

[SteveSmith1985]

She is worried that you are going to expect sex if she "stays the night". That is for sure why she's hesitant. She wants to spend the night. She just doesn't want you to assume that spending the night automatically means sex.

All you need to do is to assure her that you are not going to expect her to do anything more than she's comfortable doing... even if she spends the night. (and... you obviously have to follow through with that and not ask for sex that night). That is all she is looking for. That will solve your problem. For sure. 🙂