Why are like all young women today delusional narcissists when it comes to dating?

[Gangactivities911]

It’s soooo old at this point. Women think soooo highly of themselves. Dating women is a constant battle to get them out of their delusional mindset: like I have to fight every woman I talk to tooth and nail just to keep them out of delusions of grandeur. It’s soooooo fucking old it’s not even funny anymore.

[TransAm85]

I grew up w/a narcissistic mother. Sure, she's 68 now, but her narc tendencies haven't changed. It's like they live in a fantasy world and see themselves as top of line, high class, queens that no1 can pass judgment on. I have always been the scapegoat kid and my little bro is the golden child. She is still a big mouth, talks to anyone and everyone, but talks shit behind their back. As a kid I thought she was just being friendly to everyone, but no a narc is nosy and critical. Don't get caught in the trap of a narcissist. They only see $$ and what u have that can benefit them.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes feel that way too. Girls always seem to search for the perfect guy in every aspect.. while breaking hearts along their journey to finding that perfect guy..

Girls gets their hearts broken too by assholes all the time, but it's still way different for them, yet they can't see it that way.
Women likes to say it's easy for men, while the total opposite is true in almost every aspect of life.

I blame the media, including social media/tinder and such mostly for this. IRL approaches nowadays are way harder in my opinion.
And also IRL girls get treated way differently from a young age then boys.

That gets to their head real quick and their ego grows.. even if they have insecurities about something, like their body, their ego is still big.
They'll throw you away the moment they find out something about you that they don't like or they find someone "better", or they just simply get bored with you...

[dscott]

Because they dont respect you and you are lacking something they're looking for trust me if a woman respects you and finds you attractive she won't test you or cause drama she will in fact walk on eggshells because she can't replace you women spend money on men they are into like a drug dealer but you need to compete as a man hit the gym, learn social skills, learn to groom, dress, and accessories and be interesting you gotta be respectable in order to get respect they only respect the top 5 percent of men and the bar is low so you can reach that east just by working on yourself you come first

[lrina]

that's not even all of them, just pick more carefully when looking for someone to date

[Gangactivities911]

It really is like almost all of them tho.

[maverick2022]

I know exactly what you mean. It's a big part of the reason so many guys are staying single nowdays. Men are a major cause of it too. So many guys simp over girls constantly that it ends up infecting their brain and making the girl delusional. Face it, the dating game is skewed in favor of females and they know this. Men have the choice to accept it or reject dating altogether.

[Gangactivities911]

It’s hard to believe that anyone would be such an attention whore. Women fight to get men to simp. And men don’t always know what is going on.

[Guy13]

Cause they’ve been told they are beautiful from 12:30-2:30am regularly by really good-looking guys at bars SO they feel highly valued…. having not yet realized the Reason for attention OR that on their best day…in Sunlight ☀️ they are average.

[Gangactivities911]

See it’s funny this cuz when u ask them they’ll say yeah I know almost all male attention is sexual yet will still let male attention go right to their fucking heads.

[Guy13]

In the admittance to you is an acknowledgement “all he wanted was to Fwck me BUT he was so gorgeous that I got horny just looking into his blue eyes…even when my buzz wore off. I can’t believe I bagged that guy.”-The first time.
THEN 2-10 degrees of Same (good-looking). The rest of the week…no attention except for guys like you…whole time thinking, “NO”.. I can’t sleep with this average guy given my Historical Standard. “Oh look, tomorrow is Thursday.”

[Little_Bumblebee]

Come with some examples and elaborate. Otherwise, this just seems like you simply just want to whine and went

[Gangactivities911]

I’ve never met a woman who just appreciated me from the get go. Like every time I give them my attention they take it for granted and start to lose interest then only when I also lose interest do they come back. I couldn’t tell u how many times this has happened. How women treat men who are similarly attractive as them is old. I’ll constantly see a guy and a girl who are very similar looks wise the guys might even be slightly more attractive looking and the girl totally just treats him like an option.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Believe t or not, but this also really happens the other way around. Anyway, this is about your experience.

I believe that often when that happens, it's about that person not being emotionally ready to be in a relationship, or because in the beginning they still have their walls up, scared they're being played or being hurt again.
Sure, I bet there are also just those types of people who play others and use them, but I tend to hope for the best when thinking of these things.

Also, you need to remember that a relationship is more than just looks.

[Gangactivities911]

I completely disagree. Men do not do this. Most guys are incredibly insecure about their dating life and dating prospects where as most young women couldn’t give a care in the world and assume they’ll end up with the guy of their dreams until 23-30ish hits and the realization that they’ve been delusional this whole time slowly starts to set in. Most young women are sooo used to male attention that they just can’t even comprehend what life will be like one day when that attention fades.

[Little_Bumblebee]

No? Heh, that's pretty funny. I would say you're projecting your own point of view onto your mindset of every dude there is.

Anyway, it seems like you're already set in your thoughts, so it feels like it has no point in me even saying anything.

[Gangactivities911]

So as women get older the standard of men they go for doesn’t decrease? Cuz if that’s the case then women had delusional expectations when they were younger no? And u act as if ur not already set in your beliefs as well but ok.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I don't know about every woman.
I know your taste and what you feel like you need, changes through life.
Seriously, when I was young, I really liked tall and kind of skinny guys, now I'm more into wide-shouldered and broad men. And you discover what you want and need in a relationship through your life as you self-reflect from every relationship and situation.

I'm not the one asking a question and then denying an answer just because it doesn't align with my already set thoughts and beliefs. Just seems like you're asking a question in the hopes of getting confirmation by others.

[Gangactivities911]

U didn’t even try to answer my question tho? Ur arguing with the premise of my question. Ya know how many times on forums like this I’ve seen women claim “well women are just more attractive than men because men are hornier.” And then say some other dumb shit like “so that means it makes sense for women to just go for the most attractive guys.” I couldn’t tell u how many times I’ve heard women say some shit like that yet I don't know if I’ve ever heard a guy say some outrageously delusional bs like that.

[KrisPW]

Aren't we all just an option? Are you being forced to be with these women? Be honest. Take any reasonably attractive girl to a bar and ask her at the end of the night how many guys tried to get her attention. Do the same with a guy. Which do you think is going to have the higher number? Obviously this is because society tells us that men should make the move. It's considered "manly" to seduce the woman into your bed. But yes, you are an option and should make yourself worthy of being the one we choose. And we should do the same. Women compete constantly with each other to be the better option for men.

"Every time I give them my attention they take it for granted" And you are calling women Narcissistic? Are the women not falling at your feet, gifting you with their charms, sufficiently enough to warrant the gift of your attention?

[Gangactivities911]

@KrisPW yes and women let all that attention go to their head of all the guys that approached them at the bar how many would honestly date let alone marry them? Most of of those guys just wanna fuck. What do u mean? If a woman treats me as an option and not a priority then they don’t like me that much? Why would I be ok with dating someone like that? Yes I am calling women narcissistic ur exactly right.

[cth2188]

Exactly

[Anonymous]

To quote a narcissistic G@Ger "Men are like busses. Wait and another will be along in 10 minutes".
To these types of women were are nothing more than cattle to be exploited. To them we are all the the same and interchangeable. I could say this is learned behaviour from mothers of I'll repute. Or another one of the unintended side effects of Feminism. But it could be a lot, cumulative factors.

[blissinanarchy1]

I see this a lot on dating websites. Ironically now, dating is easier in real life than online. And bro... gang activities... then 911? Worst number you can pick if you were going for a "gangster" username

[Gangactivities911]

Honestly I just typed the first thing that came to my mind. And yeah it’s worse online but it’s still awful in person.

[whereismyjohnny]

Why are you generalising, mate?

You can always start dating men tho 😉😂

[Gangactivities911]

Almost every woman I’ve ever talked to did this soooo. Ahhhh gay jokes that really wasn’t funny but ok… and yeah maybe I should date men cuz they don’t play this stupid ducking game…

[whereismyjohnny]

Then you need to pick better when it comes to girls and dating.

God, I was joking around.

[Gangactivities911]

Well of the 100 girls I’ve talked to in the past year I don't know if any didn’t do this soooo I don't know why u want from me like literally all girls do this soooo.

[Shamalien]

They are brainwashed to be that way by media and bullshit “education”

[cth2188]

I don’t date men , but a lot of men come off as narcs to women play the nice guy

[Gangactivities911]

Hmmm?

[cth2188]

Before I accepted my sexuality men were doing this

[Gangactivities911]

U expect narcs to be open about their behavior? Maybe if women didn’t say stuff like “he’s really cute and My type, but he’s too nice” this wouldn’t happen. I’ve actually heard women in numerous occasions say they turned down a guy because he was “too nice” and I def notice like every girl does this. So I don't know how u can complain about narcs.

[cth2188]

I don’t date men so I don’t have this to worry about

[Gangactivities911]

Ok and how is that relevant? I don't know how many times ur gonna say ur a lesbian but no one cares. That has nothing to do with the last comment I typed.

[cth2188]

Nothing you said maters to me

[cth2188]

I’m letting you know that men come off as the nice guy when most aren’t

[cth2188]

Yes I will complain about narcs a lot of men are narcs and women too

[Gangactivities911]

Then why r u here? U keep spouting absolutely irrelevant things. K? Wtf does this have to do with absolutely anything I’ve said?

[Gangactivities911]

U just salty and bitter cuz what I said is true… lol

[Gangactivities911]

Like 7% of men are narcs and somehow every woman has dated one. So either women love to overplay how much men are narcs probably cuz they can’t accept cuz they’re toxic af too or women are specifically attracted to narcs. Probs a bit of both.

[cth2188]

I responded to your question

[cth2188]

No I’m not salty and bitter I spoke the truth a lot of guys come off as the nice guy to women.. the truth

[Gangactivities911]

It’s impressive how much u can comment and still have said absolutely nothing about my post. Ok? What the fuck does that have to do with absolutely anything I’ve said? R u incapable of discussing my topic or something? Why do u keep saying the same thing? Yes there are men who appear nice at first but are actually narcissists. Why do keep staying over and over again?

[cth2188]

A lot of these guys are overly confident and high egos

[cth2188]

I am an empath and I know about narcs so there I agree with the other comments you want to argue and whine

[Gangactivities911]

Ur an empath so ur crazy… ok really makes sense now. U still are completely avoiding the whole topic here. So let’s just end this now. Cuz I’m pretty sure ur physically incapable of sticking to the topic.

[cth2188]

Clearly you’re crazy and ranting

[Gangactivities911]

“I’m An EmPaTh AnD mOsT mEn ArE nArCs.” More likely ur a shitty person and men treat u accordingly. I’ve never met someone in my life who thought they were morally superior to others and wasn’t a POS just saying.

[Gangactivities911]

Wanna know what I can’t stand about women? Women will not respect u unless u force them to where as the same is not true of my guy friends. All my male friends just simply respected me from the get go where as every girl I’ve ever been with I had to make it clear that I’m not dealing with their bullshit or they will try it. I’m always the one just being straight up with women and they’re always playing games.

[cth2188]

Go rant somewhere else clearly you have an issue with women

[cth2188]

Same with me why I’m single women do the same thing as a lesbian play games

[Gangactivities911]

Well I’m glad that u can understand where I’m coming from being a lesbian and all. Maybe u can give me some advice? I actually really like lesbians and tend to get along with them very well. I mean yeah I do have an issue with women. I really don’t want to have an issue with them tho. I’d like absolutely nothing more than to just have a healthy relationship. Well I’m glad we found some understanding. See I don’t mind the games exactly it’s just like I don’t feel like I can trust someone who doesn’t just respect and like me from the start ya know? And it makes me super sad cuz I’m actually like really sensitive and romantic but women don’t want a sensitive romantic guy i swear.

[Gangactivities911]

And it’s like it doesn’t matter how attractive u r, how funny u r, how good at sex u r, it doesn’t matter how interesting u r to them. They will try to play games. u could be the most attractive guy in the world and they could be not even that attractive and they’ll still take u for granted unless u put them in their place. I met this girl recently at the goth club and like I’m def more attractive than her not that I care but just making a point. Things are going well, we fuck and she cums so many times she can’t even keep track of her own admittance. We try all sorts of fun toys and positions and whatever. I’m super nice to her not like a sumo but I treat her like I’d treat my sister or something. I try to be open and honest and genuine and whatever. I probably came off as “too nice” or some bs like that I don't know. Next thing I know I swear it’s like she lost interest she avoids hanging out again and just wants to text and follow each other’s social media. Then this goes on and I eventually just ask what happened and if she wants to have a consistent thing or not and she says she’s too busy all the time. But now I’m completely ignoring her and she can’t stop looking at my Instagram story wtf dude. How does this make any sense? This is absolutely not an isolated incident either by any means.

[Gangactivities911]

I try sooooooo hard to like women and not just see them as sex objects but every single time I try over and over and over again it’s like women give me every reason possible to not want an emotional connection with them. It’s like they’re determined to be useless to me besides sex. It’s really depressing and makes me wanna die.

[cth2188]

Lesbians don’t interact with men I’m here to tell you that

[cth2188]

I don’t engage with men unless I’ve been knowing them from high school or college years / I have one male friend I’ve been knowing 20 years

[Gangactivities911]

Ehhh I don't know I dated a lesbian for almost 3 years so that can’t be totally true.

[Gangactivities911]

Why do u say this? I don’t mean any offense by this but it seems like the things u comment are random and have nothing to do with what I said or the post in general.

[cth2188]

I’m surprise this post is up lesbians don’t date men I don’t engage with men

[cth2188]

Clearly she wasn’t a lesbian if you guys had sex and dated

[cth2188]

The friend guy I have doesn’t even come onto me disrespectfully we speak every blue moon

[Gangactivities911]

She is a self admitted lesbian who says she’s never been attracted to a guy besides me.

[cth2188]

So why are you calling her a lesbian

[cth2188]

Clearly she’s not or wasn’t

[Gangactivities911]

Because I’ve never meet a “lesbian” in my life who hasn’t had sex/dated/kisses a guy. You’ve never dated/had sex with/ or kissed a guy before?

[Anonymous]

They brainwashed by social media to be entitled. Women never think they are the problem.

[noohair]

Women wanted equality and freedom.
Is this the unintended consequence?

[boggboss]

Seems u get with women simply to argue with them over actully trying to date

[Gangactivities911]

Huh?

[boggboss]

U keep talking about how women tak eu for granted and women have crazy views on dating yet how do they take u for granted when there are plenty of other guys just like u giving them attention

[Gangactivities911]

I still don’t understand.

[boggboss]

Understand what?

[Gangactivities911]

They assume my attention will always be here and I will stay interested til any point into the future.

[boggboss]

And what lol if thats the type of women u found look for others they do this because enough guys out there are like that

[DermalPunch]

I like don’t like even know.

[Gangactivities911]

I really appreciate ur comment by the way. Nice to see a woman admit that younger women do this. Any tips on what I should do about it? Cuz to find a girl similarly attractive as me who appreciates me and doesn’t seem me as an easily replaceable object or something feels impossible and i don’t want to but it just makes me really not like women and I really want a good relationship with women in my life but constantly being look down upon by women I honestly wouldn’t even date seriously just gets so old so quick.

[Avicenna]

You’re Meeting them in all the wrong places

[Gangactivities911]

What makes u say that? Is school not the right place to meet women?

[Waldoe]

Pick BETTER women...

[Gangactivities911]

Can’t find ones who don’t do this.