Good question. The truth is you will get no higher than your children's father. On the positive side, it’s not hard to get a husband but it’s hard for women to be wives. My advice to you would be not to over value yourself. You’re almost 40 with 3 kids. Also never believe these statements most women will lie on here and say. Here’s a couple, “Men will forgive their promiscuous past. Men aspire and love being Stepfathers. The men that you friendzone will always be there for you as a back up plan after you’ve been pumped and dumped by the Chads. Men want partnerships and don’t want to be the leaders of their relationships. That men will accept you as you are regardless of your age, weight or parental situation. Men don’t have standards. Men care about a women’s income and education. Having a degree and a high paying job will increase a woman’s SMV (Sexual Market Place Value) That being fat is the same as being curvy. Men will always find you attractive at any age or size even when you’ve hit the wall”. It’s going to be harder trying to date as a single mother but it is possible. You will have to settle for less. Why should a man who’s thorough about his business and his values date a women that has any problems? Why should he not get the best? If that’s you in your profile picture , I understand now why your husband is divorcing you. The sad reality is you’re probably going to be 60 and still single. Wish you luck though.
Let's lay down the ground work:
-You are recently divorced
-You have 3 kids
-You are mid-to-late 30s
-You have been married for "almost 20 years"
From what I can gather:
Assuming your listed age is correct, you got hitched either in your late teens or early 20s, and your perspective of the dating pool is relative to the early-to-mid 2000s.
The majority of men in your dating demographic are either already married, not interested and just looking for sex, or divorced. If we assume "dating" is 2 years long average to develop a stable relationship, then the earliest you'd get involved again in an "official" capacity is around 40. I don't know how big the pool is for men who do want to be married at that age, if it hasn't already occurred, but it's probably very small and getting smaller each year. The pool of men who want to get married and are willing to be a surrogate father to 3 children (because I don't know how you're going to be with a man, without at some point involving your kids) is even smaller than that.
Realistically, it's brutal for people 10 years your junior. Unless you get very lucky and find a "diamond in the rough", I wouldn't even bother. Focus on your kids.
You will have more freedom to explore new hobbies and people which can be rewarding and exciting. You will come across some crummy people because they are out there just don’t let them get you down. Maybe. Try to make some friends in your Situation but try to stay away from the bitter ones.
Best part about being single is it’s peaceful, you have a lot of freedom, you have time to discover your true self. I love being single even though I’m dating.
The cons
There’s a lot of users, losers, manipulates, and time wasters out there.
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My wife and I were both previously married. We met online. There's no reason this should be scary. Just meet men in a public place (coffee is good) and find out who they are before going any further. You don't have to disclose anything besides a mobile number, and you can get a number from Google that will forward to your phone.
Best part is you can be yourself without having to worry about someone else's expectations. The worst part is missing the physical and emotional intimacy that comes with a relationship.
As a 36 year old single father, my best advice would be to take a little while to date yourself. Before looking for a partner, treat yourself, take yourself out on dates, get to know yourself for who you are as a person and a woman, but just as a wife and a mom, and fall in love with yourself. Build quality friendships that lift you up, invest in you and carry some of the emotional intimacy that you would otherwise seek in a relationship (emotional intimacy is healthy in friendships but all too often lacking). Once you've fallen in love with yourself, know that your worth is not determined by your relationships or suicidal status, and truly appreciate yourself for who you are, then, if you still want to, give someone else the chance to fall in love with you.
So like you I was 36 and two children. My best advice from then until now is the dating world is very very different. There are so many variants of relationships that you may encounter and not be prepared for. Hold on to your heart, treat people with kindness and do not jump into anything.
As women we have a sixth sense and this has always served me well, listen to it and most of all have fun!
The best part is everyone wants to fuck, it's very easy to get laid now.
The worst part is that it's way harder to have even a half decent relationship. And personally, I'm way more jealous of people in relationships when I fuck a lot than I am of people who fuck a lot when I'm in a relationship.
I can drive to the Local Airport and get into my Cessna 182 and leave for a few days. I can also buy a ticket to almost anywhere and go. I value my freedom. The downside is I have no children. I have several friends with benefits so I am not alone most of the time. Life is good!
at least your experienced temporary love. I still havnt experienced any love at all... Fml.. I do love that I have a lot of freedom to do what I want, when I want. I can relax, take time off from people. But then I get lonely, have no one to talk to at home. No one to care for or be cared for.
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horror stories in what way?
when you are single you make all your own choices so just choose well at least you can experience different things again which is great
Don't rush into anything, 36 with children, is tough. Wish I had better direction. than this. Being single and looking for a mate is tough under any conditions.
Worst part holidays with out a partner best part is the freedom to do or go where you want any time but I dont mind dating it's just so many weird girls out there I had 1 older female I dint know that was very pretty come up to me after good i flirtation an say i like to peg you i was like what the hell they put in her coffee at the coffee shop we were in
I have been single now for 10 years and the best part about being single is:
•Don't have to answer to anyone
•Can do whatever you please
•Can go wherever you want
•You save LOTS of money
•No stress and no drama
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The worst part of being single:
•No sex on a regular basis
•Lonely nights
•Cold bed
Its really only scary because its a change out of your current comfort zone. The upsides or downsides are really just how you view it. Being single you can focus on yourself in finding new hobbies to try out and figure out new likes, being married its a bit more challenging to have the drive to do that but I guess in exchange you have someone you can be comfortable around during your settling down times.
Having private time, worrying about your own needs, dont have to worry about keeping someone else happy, doing what you want, eating what you want, don't have to share your money. The Downsides are, being alone, feeling unloved, no intimacy, no cuddles, no one to help you when you're depressed, dealing with the immense struggles of the current dating society.
Best part: people don't generally bother you about being single.
Worst part: everyone is so traumatized by their prior entanglements that the thought of getting close to someone new is more depressing than exciting.
Wow welcome back to being single I’ve been single this whole time it’s not bad
What is the best part of being single these days?
*Doing what you want, when you want.
What is the worst part of being single these days?
*Lack of sexual intimacy.
Well I was going to say the best part is just having yourself to worry about, though if you have 3 kids I guess that doesn't apply.
The worst part is not having anyone to bounce off, bodies or ideas.
The best part of being single is having no one to nag you and no one to worry about except yourself. The worst part is that you can get lonely, especially as you get older.
Best part, you live life on your own terms.
Worst part, friends giving you looks of pity when you're the only single person and constantly try to set you up.
At 36 as a single mom divorcee, if you're still cute, every. Single. Man. Will. Try. To. Fuck. You. None. Will. Want. To. Commit.
So if you're into the casual sex then good. If not, you're screwed.
You said 'I was his submissive, and I loved it. No abuse. '
Then why the divorce if you loved it and there was no abuse?
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