Men, can you usually tell when someone is into you? What hint should a girl give to make it absolutely clear that she wants a guy to approach?

[_Cleopatra_]

Just wondering...

[jaybee281]

Well I'll try to explain - I think it'd be beneficial for you and for the dudes as well - It obviously usually starts with looks here and there - as well as smiles here and there (from both people so please don't look like a serial killer) - Then - and this one's the most important part - The physical proximity you have to him after that, which I think is easier on the girl to make than on the guy- Like if I'm at McDonald's with my friends - You are with yours - We'd have looked at each other and given a few smiles - Now I'm still not sure if you're interested because I'm a guy - You could for example go make it look like you're ordering something and I'll see you and go "randomly" order something in order to talk (I'll probably honestly tell you that that's what I did) - Or even better if you see me getting up ordering something or doing anything else just not sitting on the table - you get closer to me - you could be talking to your friends while passing by or something meanwhile I'll try my best to get your attention (either randomly involve in our conversation or just complimenting you and saying hi) - If you're feeling confident enough just make a joke yourself - If you'd rather have him approach then that's how it's done...

[jaybee281]

My god did I just write an essay about nailing an approach - my God..

[Adam_DoesArt]

TLDR: In person, yeah, it's pretty easy, but online, nothing makes sense.

In person, yeah, I think so. Usually when someone is into me, they find reasons to be in the same room as me, even if they're not talking, or interacting with me. Usually I'll catch them checking me out, or even better, they'll be more obvious, and out right flirt with me. I've even had some of my coworkers slap my ass, lmao.

Online though, that's totally different. I get a decent amount of likes and matches on Tinder for instance, but no matter what I say, they rarely respond with interest, assuming they choose to respond at all. It's very strange. Even if we have a decent conversation, they usually ghost me.

[AmandaYVR]

She should forget about hints and instead approach him.
It's time for things to change.

[TurkishGirl_]

Men are a little bad at this and they don't notice. Or I’m unlucky lol

[Lw85381]

Men, generally are clueless. I'm 73, and thought back about me, watched my children, and am now watching my Grandchildren. Clueless!

[Guanfei]

Nah, we're really that simple. Don't hint, don't play games, be straightforward. We'll also appreciate it because you made the effort of coming and took the risk of a rejection.

[NamerOfStars]

No. No, I cannot. I am an EXPERT at misunderstanding women; if it were an Olympic event, I'd win the gold. Knowing my luck, however, the person handing out the medals would be a woman, and when she came to me I'd think she was kicking me out.

I realize you probably think I'm exaggerating, but there came a time once when I was talking with a woman, for several minutes, while I waited for my friend to come out of the bathroom. Unbeknownst to me, he already had, and was watching the two of us talking, keeping his distance so as not to interrupt. Eventually, we finished the conversation and she went on her way, and my buddy came up to me and said, quote, "Well?". Apparently, she'd been flirting with me, rather strongly, and I hadn't noticed at all.

And that friend, who DID notice it? He has Asperger's. When even the autistic guy picks up these signals better than you do...

[NamerOfStars]

Anyway, while I'm worse than most, a LOT of guys struggle with this; it's generally best to lay it on kind of thick.

[zagor]

No I can't. And was even worse at it when I was younger.

How she hints she is interested kind of depends on the social milieu. If she works with him, is in school with him, or is in some sort of social circle with him, she can try to get into conversations with him, which also has the benefit of being able to find out if he is in a relationship, is gay, or has some attributes which may make him less (or more) attractive to her.

If it is a stranger at a bar, on the beach, or some other situation where she is unlikely to ever see him again, she will have to be more explicit in getting his attention.

[TheorionMage]

Simply reach out and touch or hold his hand. Its an unmistakable sign you 'welcome' association with him.

Should he withdraw HIS hand, assume he's either uncertain or is uncomfortable.
Merely, mumble 'Sorry'... and leave the next gesture to him.
Should he query further for clarification,
reply "I just wanted you to know I'd welcome seeing you socially and getting to know you better as a friend, ... time will tell." The sign is 'dense male unmistakable' yet leaves you EACH an ego-saving way out.

[SeekerOfBooty]

I'm not really concerned about that when I approach someone.
I approach whoever I like and I simply act like I'm sure they will be into me when they get to know me better.

I do gauge whether I meet their standards looks-wise, and that's by paying attention to their body language.
People who find you unattractive act negatively when you violate their personal space, and those who find you attractive don't.

Like, for example, if a woman places her forearm against yours on an arm rest or keeps her knee against yours after bumping into it, that is a dead giveaway.
People are normally very vigilant about that sort of stuff, and there would be an immediate physical reaction if they were uncomfortable with you in their way.

So I guess if you want to "hint" that you are into someone, then violate their personal space a little more and maybe they will catch your drift.

[Citizenkirk]

If I'm getting positive vibes from a girl like she seems real comfortable and it relaxed around me then I'll figure that she either likes me and just wants to hang out or maybe she likes me in a more intimate way and wants to make out either way is good. If she acts off flirty and shallow then that's kind of a turn off for me but if her smile sincere and she just wants to talk regular talk with no formalities or b******* like that then I get the impression that maybe she wants to either hang out or maybe she wants to go out and spend some quality time getting to know each other. If she sticks her nose in the air well I think we all know what that means

[yucel_eden]

Most guys can’t usually tell.


I usually am cold to the girls if I like them and I see their reaction. Attempts to talk to you, look at you when not looking…touch barrier etc are all big signs.


I let girls give me hints when I’m cold and that makes it obvious who likes you and who isn’t.


If you act nice to them it’s hard to tell because your blurring the lines between a romantic partner and a friend zone…


But if you like a guy, best way is break the touch barrier or ask him out, I’ve been asked out before and if he’s worth it he’ll either accept or turn you down nicely

[BeMuse]

Why does it matter. More than half the time you are confused about what you want, scared about taking a chance and getting hurt, paranoid that an attractive guy is trying to play you/take advantage of you, or whatever when you are given an opportunity. I can tell a woman finds me attractive, but that won't stop her insecurities from getting in her way. So it's kind of like it doesn't even matter if they like you or not. It's more so what actions they are willing to take.

[BeMuse]

Action talks, bullshit walks...

[jamesgoldman]

Nope, I've been oblivious to the point of being told someone likes me and still having doubts

It has in my past experience always been that she would make the first move, with one girlfriend kissing me and the other blowing me when I drunkenly fell asleep on her dad's couch

[MCheetah]

Women should just communicate with men and let them know, instead of all this stupid mind-reader, hyper-subtle-hint bullsh*t. Men don't speak to each other using telepathy.

[mstbooblover]

Seen from that point of view, hints on the girl's side may apparently seem clear, but never really obvious. I tend to be suspicious. Would it be not easier for both if the girl just told him? Why should a girl not take the first step?

[Anonymous]

When i talk to a girl,
I watch how she talks to me,
Her tone in specific, And

if we keep locking eyes,
Durring our conversation, Or from across the room,

that’s usually a good indicator, And I've picked up, girls. In the past by picking up thease cues.


if i catch a cute girl looking at me across the room at a bar,
And we lock eyes. Multiple times.

Thats my green light, Go talk to her,
and it usually is exactly what I think it is

[Jonny59]

girls need to TALK to us otherwise how can we know?
there are things you can look for but most of the times they're out of curiosity from their side so nothing special
just walk toward him and say Hi what's your name bla bla bla and just make it obvious

[DanielBlack1904120]

I am picky & very patient. I do notice because at least around here when I'm out & a woman is attracted they will pop up outta nowhere expecting for me to start that little game of say the right things & impress but I don't bother. she will leave & than pop up again in my peripheral to see if I'm going to or not & she will either leave or she will say something. if she doesn't.. good cause I'm not interesting in women who are like every other woman

[Anonymous]

In my experience this behaviour is so random and inconsistent that there’s no subtle “signaling” that’s going to convince me to approach. If you’re interested, then you approach me and tell me that, then I’ll believe you and we can proceed. Have a spine and take some initiative.

[Anonymous]

These days hints mean nothing, how about they come straight out and say what they are feeling.

Guys are not mind readers, what women think is a hint would more than likely mean nothing to the guys.

If women would say what they mean it would lead to less misunderstandings

[Anonymous]

I think we need to define approach. There is no amount of signs a woman can give me that will make me "approach" her. The simple fact of the matter is she sees me. If she wants to talk to me she can do that. I won't bite i promise.
Sorry I don't play this game. If she's unwilling to even come talk to me Cleary she's not that interested now isn't she.

[slatyb]

Across a room? She maintains eye contact. But instead of relying on the man to take the hint, why not just walk over and say hi?

[Doflamingo1]

It’s hard to tell. Unless she either slides into my Dms or tries to setup a date.

If you want an approach just smile more, and keep stealing glances until I notice

[Kiran_Yagami]

Yes, because women NEVER compliment a man they aren't interested in. In fact, women mostly don't compliment men even when they are interested in them, so when one does you must have really put a blip on her radar.

[ohshee]

Look deep into his eyes put your hand up and with your very first finger move it like come here LOL