Why men don't approach me anymore?

[Anonymous]

Why men don't approach me anymore? i used to be liked and approached a lot and had boys sliding in my dms and many eye contacts and looks but i wasn't interested in dating at all. Then once i got really sick i shut my self from the outside world , i got fat and sinked into depression now that i'm good and better and spent a year healing i am open to dating but no one approaches me anymore even on social media , what went wrong? sometimes i think because its due to my body changes or maybe i'm not the same person anymore after depression , my friends say that maybe my shields are up but i'm really open for the idea and trying

[ohshee]

Ok so this is your first step and going forward is acknowledging how life was , how life is, and now accepting All the Above where do you want to take it. So where you used to be. And where you are right now you have a blueprint you have a schematic of how you got there. So use reverse engineering. Or just do a 180 turn around and go backwards. How many steps is it going to take you to get to where you used to be. How serious are you. How committed are you. Are you motivated or do you just want to hear yourself talk sorry I had to say it because that's all people are doing okay so to wipe out depression to lose weight walk 30 minutes a day at a fast pace for 30 days commit yourself to this you will become a brand new person the pressure will clean your brain out and all the bullshit that comes with it you will Breathe new life into your lungs your brain and you will tone up your body like you have never seen before but you have to be motivated you have to want it who do you want to be at your choice in life we are given the gift of choice we get to choose who we want to be by the things we say and do where you want to be it's your choice. It's that simple. If you need motivation send me a message let's make a plan I'll be in your corner so you have to commit for 30 days. Boils down to how bad you want to change

[224466881010]

Things that could explain your situation:

1) you used to be in highly social circumstances (like highschool or college, hundreds of people seeing you every day) and now you're not.

2) you're not as attractive as you used to be.

3) you used to be in a group of friends who got a lot of attention and now you're not with them. God-forbid people were trying to use you to get to someone else in your entourage.

4) You cut everyone off

5) you're still not open to being social

6) you did something wrong or acted like a jerk

7) people gossipped about you or something

8) people just don't know that you're hot again.

What do you think?

I think it could be a blessing in disguise, personally. It's an opportunity to start fresh and meet people on neutral terms and make new friends and find out what you like. As opposed to just having a tornado of people overwhelm you and you never actually chose your own friends because there were just so many people automatically there.

[tatianamay]

Have you tried hitting the gym and going on a diet? Have you tried therapy?

[Asker]

yes and yes

[tatianamay]

You're all good then ^^

[NewgodX]

Depression can change a person a lot sometimes they realize It sometimes they don't

After my experice with my ex wife I had decided to ban all females from my life for ever
But it's just like escaping a burning house you take what you can and save what you can

I saved myself

You need to figure out what you saved after, or are you still inside the buring house what i mean is that are you sure your depression is over coz many time people don't fully realize they still talk sad ALL the time

[MCheetah]

Regarding "Why don’t men make the first move [anymore]?"

This may not specifically be you, but I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if you were actually the "It's sexual harassment if you're not at least an 8 out of 10" type of Karen.

[Asker]

actually no, i don't even have a type , i don't even get a liking to guy unless we speak and get to know his personnality soooo...

[FilmGuy93]

Your friends could be right about your shields still being up; that just makes a lot of sense to me. it's also possible that the men who were once interested in you just got a super angry and hateful vibe from when you were depressed, and just lost interest. Are you still trying to date from the same pool of people?

[Wise4myage]

Get help for your depression, go on a diet and things will change for the better.

[Asker]

i got help i"m good now

[Wise4myage]

Good. How bout your weight?

[Asker]

i did lose quite a bit, not the total sum of pounds tho but my old clothes fit now

[Wise4myage]

Awesome, I think you are on the right path.

[Dchrls78104]

1. You got fat.
2. You rejected them so they thought that it wouldn't make sense anymore (if a girl rejected me once I'd never approach her again).
3. Your friends think that your guard is up.

[M0use]

Most people act like that with women that are in good shape so if u get in good shape again I bet they will start doing it again

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women don't approach in the first place.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Oh this is about you? Well same reason why you don't approach anyone.

[Asker]

there is no specific reason im just shy

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then there's no specific reason why men don't approach you.

[Asker]

oh wow how come i never thought of this

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's when your own logic gets backfired

[Kareem_z21]

Maybe they are afraid of getting refused. Did you try to make the first move?

[JesseJayNeak]

You shut yourself away and expected them to stay (Hey, that rhymed)? Your closing in is basically a rejection

[Anonymous]

Me too? Why do women look at me as a pervert, a creep, or a rapist for just being attracted to a woman and shooting my shot? It isn't my fault I am unattractive.

[Cowboy6666]

Approach to single guys like me if they don't approach you

[boggboss]

Because your body changed most likely

[FýrdracaDócincel]

This was made by a manperson

[Dkc123]

How much do you weigh? Now?

[Shihab91]

Because you are anonymous

[anylolone]

Why should they?

[Anonymous]

Karma happened.