Because some guys these days have turned friends into friends with benefits, have turned dating into looking to hook up more than looking to date someone to actually have a relationship with. Because some guys are using the internet to have multiple long distance relationships while sleeping with chicks IRL. And then too, when you add the guys that trash talk the whole female gender, like all women are feminists or gold diggers or over-emotional or trying to control men with sex, it doesn't make dating very appealing.
And it's not just men, there's women guilty of some of these actions as well. People have ruined the trust in dating in these times. With their dating/sleeping with multiple people at once, with sexting people online while dating others. With treating people like products with this "social market value" or "damaged goods"... People can BE GOOD but their NOT goods to be comparison shopping or trade in for a better model, they're people with feelings. But people don't seem to regard anyone's feelings but their own these days..
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Because of all the times they were told the same things and none of them lasted talk is cheap gotta show a woman more with your actions like of she's upset do you confort her get her to talk about it no matter how silly you think the topic is can you see why she's soo upset.. maybe her purfume bottle smashed.. you hated that smell but made her feel mote confident and she just bought it less than a week ago can you get on her level and comfort her or do you say get over it just buy a new one.. too many guys promise the world and first sign of trouble leave then attempt to come back when everything appears to be okay.. we have our walls up too want you to prove yourself to us before we let our guard down cause everyone will hurt you.. just have to find someone thats worth the hurt.. your thinking how can I say everyone easily they will physically by saying what needs to be said to get in our pants or they will be our dream come true spend our whole lives together but die before us still pain.. if a girl you like has been hurt by someone being unfaithful or tried to please soneone else so much she tried to create herself to be what he wanted abd it still didn't work.. she lost herself her desires been in both those situations and both are hard to come back from and you tell yourself you won't allow it to happen again so you put up walls abd think back of what could have been warning signs and say if any guy does or says this I need to run.. you need to show her your a safe place and won't hurt her.. not just say it
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It’s getting harder to find a nice guy when all that you see around you are horrible men. For example I just thought I was talking to this nice guy and realized he was too good to be true. Hard worker very polite sweet and oh so attractive. Come to find out he had a girl this whole time. Just the other day had a man, a 30 year old man BEGGING me to send him nudes after I told him no several times. Ended up blocking them both. It’s honestly getting to the point where “real” “nice” men are becoming extinct sadly.
Because it's not a necessity for us to live anymore. There are less marriages and more divorces because we have a choice. Same with dating. Why would I date someone when I can support myself and hook up whenever I want without having to be in a relationship first? I'm not gonna get into a relationship with someone unless I really like them and they bring more to the table besides dick🤷 people have the option now to focus on someone's personality and other qualities, instead of settling because they need a place to live and someone to support them financially. We can afford to be more picky I guess.
I'm not sure really. But for me it's because of multiple reasons. First I'm more anxious towards guys and haven't been attracted to any for many years, only best friends with them. Another is because I'm pressured by other men and women to date a guy. Which makes me not want to due to the fact I don't want to just date a guy just to please those people (I just want to date whoever I love. Is this not simple enough for people these days?) There's more I think but it can be a lot to handle for me sometimes. Everything is all mixed up and I'm confused with it. But that's ok because I'll get out of it one day.
Because most experience sexual harrassment and assault. a lot of guys not saying all don't know the term no. But also I can say from experience it's mainly because the guys I come across are great at the start then if I move in. They become lazy and expect me to be their mother. I have a son already I don't need to be looking after another man child. i have also experienced when it comes to the bedroom it seems to be one way. Where I doing everything for the guy sexually but if i ask for something simple in return it's always excuses. I just need someone to put in as much effort and loyalty in the relationship as me.
Because most of them have had bad experiences with men, and are taught to do their best to prevent being assaulted by them. Why would we put ourselves at risk, for painfully wonderbread men when we have so much to lose socially, mentally and physically.
Because people are proving to be less trust worthy and loyal. People like to pretend to want something serious but not put the work into the relationship. Because people don't know how to be mindful of their actions and respectful to the emotions of the other person
From personal experience, guys have always tried to use me as hook up and flat out disrespected me and manipulated my feelings for their own ego or gain. I'm tired. Sure, you can "not all guys are like that" but all that guys I have met so far (including my males friends) have proven to me time and time again that they can't date seriously. I refuse to invest in a guy until they put it the work.
Because we are being let down. I feel like society changed to bad. Nobody is about love, everyone is selfish. And that’s where we are.
I feel like straight up i am obliged to measure up to some standard i am unable to reach plus that i am obliged to have sex with him earlier than im ready to ( i need to warm up to people to get to the comfort level of getting naked together, it takes some time to feel comfortable together)
these days guys are least trustful than ever. They leave girls in their emotional fort they have built. They cheat on any next beautiful girl they see. What other reason do we girls need?
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