Why would an ex go out of their way to talk badly about you months later when they’re seeing someone new?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that's so messed up of your ex to be out here talking bad about you months later when they're dating someone new now! It seems super sketchy and like they're probably just trying to make themselves look better to their new person by putting you down.

Some people are just insecure and feel like they need to trash their exes to make their current relationship seem better. Talking bad about you probably makes your ex feel better about themselves for some reason. They might be trying to convince their new girl that you were the problem and they're so much happier now.

I'd honestly just feel bad for their new girl if I were you - no one wants to date someone who's still stuck in the past and dragging their ex. Seems like maybe your ex still isn't fully over things either if they're bringing it up this long after.

Try not to let it get to you - you probably dodged a bullet not being with someone so immature! Hold your head high knowing you're better off. Anyone talking trash about an ex usually says more about them than the other person. Just stay doing you and be the bigger person - don't waste your time feeling bad about what some hater says!

[Asker]

Tru!! But he’s not bringing it up to the new girl, i meant that he’s bringing me up randomly to our mutual friends and making mean comments out of nowhere. This is now the second or third time he’s done this , in the last month

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl that is SO wack of him! Who just keeps bringing up their ex to mutual friends months later? Like get over it already dude, we all know you're salty about the breakup.

He's probably just tryna seem cool in front of the bros by dissing you. Total lame move to act like that when he's supposedly so happy with this new chick. Not a good look at all.

I'd be tempted to confront him and be like "bro why are you still talking about me? We broke up forever ago, time to move on." But honestly don't even give him the satisfaction, it'll probably just encourage more childish behavior.

Straight up ignore it whenever he's talking trash. Refuse to engage at ALL, it'll drive him crazy not getting a reaction out of you. Better yet, avoid hanging with mutual friends if he's around to spew his BS. You don't need that nonsense!

Hold your head high, keep doin you, and let him fade into irrelevance where he belongs. He's trying way too hard to get under your skin - don't let him! You're out here thriving sis, he's just salty in the cheap seats 💅🏽

[Lowly_Grump]

Your ex is as sour as week-old milk and about as pleasant as a porcupine in a pair of pantyhose. He is like a sad, lonely testicle, swinging desperately in the wind, trying to find a new scrotum to call home (that's the home of the new partner, just to be crystal clear). But, like a sad, solitary ball, it's all talk and no game. So, instead of admitting that they're just a sad, deflated bag of hot air, this sad, little windbag starts blowing bad vibes your way. Like a little fart in a windstorm, all noise and no substance. They're trying to mask their own stench of insecurity by wafting some putrid perfume your way, the majestic pleasant breeze that you are. ﾠ

[kylee2437]

This heavily depends on what is being said - sharing experiences about what he may have went through with you is not talking badly, however him name calling and calling you crazy is talking badly.

[Asker]

No , he’s talking shit, saying I won’t leave him alone or just generally making bad comments when I literally haven’t spoken to him in months.

[kylee2437]

@asker do you stalk his socials or anything? Maybe he’s trying to make you out to be the crazy ex, either way if you aren’t doing anything wrong it’s not really anything to really worry about.

[Asker]

No I do not. I just take it as a compliment that I’m still on his mind if he has to go out of his way to make up lies or just make comments unprovoked

[DishLady]

To justify leaving you… to make themselves look better bc they have zero self esteem… and a bunch of reasons along those lines.

[Finchie40]

To play a victim to make themselves look like they are innocent , when really they were more than likely the POS

[Asker]

Yeah but why just randomly bring it up to people? I’ve been told he’s making very angry comments out of nowhere about me, and I know these people aren’t lying because I know him to be impulsive

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he isn’t fully over you yet? , what was the reason you 2 broke up? Some people don’t handle break ups easily , especially if that person feels they did no wrong to begin with , so if you broke up with him and he isn’t really sure why? He is going to resent you and think of you as a selfish person that broke his heart. Which could cause him to bash you to other people. Whatever the case may be? He has a lot of resentment and anger towards you , and probably thinks you are a selfish person for breaking up with him to begin with. When someone ends a relationship without really a valid reason or a valid answer , the other person usually suffers and feels backstabbed or betrayed , their heart feels shattered , because they don’t see any wrong from their perspective, so they immediately attack and criticize and belittle the person that left them. Thinking that person is selfish POS person , He is probably regretting giving you his heart and now he has so much hate and anger towards you.

[AviatorTom]

Excellent question. Don't they realize that by doing that, they are actually criticizing themselves in front of their new someone? Why should they have been with you if you were so bad?

[HawkPerception]

If you know what they're saying about you behind your back, you're not distancing yourself enough from them, because how would you what they're otherwise?

Exes might say negative things about you to others to help themselves get over you or and focus on the negatives. Or they could just be trying to paint you the villain and themselves the saint. Or they could just be being honest about your behaviour and ranting to friends about it.

[Asker]

Because people have been telling me. I have 0 contact with him. And he’s not being honest about any behaviour, I cut him off because he’s verbally abusive. And he’s apparently making unprovoked comments and having spurts of anger about me.

[HawkPerception]

Then let him say whatever he wants. It shouldn't affect you. Only immature people will act like he is. Just be the more mature one and see him as the child he is.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/EYyarcp5LtU

He still do.. 🤭

[avery58]

If they're still bitter they haven't gotten over you, at least not completely. Simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Republicans do this. They are like woman who can't let things go. I only mention this as it's always a red neighbor who stirs the pot reporting everyone. Always the red ex. Weird fact.

[ProbablyClueless]

Ego. They're hurt about the way things ended and are trying to keep controlling the other person now that the relationship is over.

[midnightmoon05]

To justify their reason (s) for the breakup?

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Spitefulness, bitterness, vindictiveness. & there ya go. There's your answer.

[Anonymous]

Two reasons. They butthurt at the relationship being over or they acted shitty in the relationship and are trashing you to cover it up.

[Nikki1989]

It is a desperate attempt to lift their self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

lol they still like u. Or should I say love. And they hate themselves for how extremely attractive u are

[Asker]

Every time he sees me he either won’t even look, and neither do I , or stares when I’m not looking

[Opinion Owner]

lol he’s obsessed 🤣

[Asker]

Then why not just reach out and apologize

[Opinion Owner]

🤣they understand u are way above their league. They hate themselves for it

[Asker]

True 😂😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

Guys mostly do this hating on women way above their league

[Asker]

I agree. And my ex is a classic example of a man that shit talks people for months or even years when he’s still hurt deep down

[Alex-Snow]

They need to get over it and move on and perhaps they are jealous of you.

[msc545]

They are clearly still angry at you obviously...

[Dr_Lovejoy]

Lack of self confidence and filled with insecurities

[D_Bone_Steak]

Probably just has a hate boner for you.

[exitseven]

She really holds a grudge.

[Danny_dan92]

They’re immature