Are men REALLY more obsessed with sex than women?

It's the age-old belief that men are simply more obsessed with sex than women. Some say it's chemical and biological and it's supposed to be this way, while others say it's just another false stereotype. What do YOU say?
Are men REALLY more obsessed with sex than women?


Hell yes they are.
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No, women are actually more obsessed with the subject.
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I think it's about even.
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  • I think men "think" they're obsessed with sex.

    The main difference in reproductive strategy for men and women boils down to the location of the genetic materials. A woman's genetic materials are internal. The only way a man has access to a woman's genetic materials is by depositing his own genetic materials inside of a woman. A man's genetic materials cause conception only when they are "external" to his body. The only way a woman has access to a man's genetic materials is if she successfully "extracts" them from a man, and even then, only if she extracts them "inside" of her.

    That biological dynamic is responsible for the reproductive strategies of men and women. Imagine a world that just suffered nuclear war. There are only about 6,000 people left in the whole world. Of those people, only about 3,000 are women. Of those women, only about 1,500 are still fertile or of reproductive value. Of those 1,500, only about 15 are "preferred" mating selections for men.

    On the flip side, through a similar calculus, there are only about 15 men whose genes women would "prefer" to mate with.

    Now we say goodbye to biology and hello to economics. A woman can only spread her genetics down a generation once every 9 months. A man, multiple times every nine months. A woman who is in the top 15 doesn't really care about the risk that her genes are locked out of the gene pool. One way or another, she's going to find a man to mate with (she just hopes that its the one she prefers).

    A man, on the other hand, is at serious risk that "his" genes are locked-out of the gene pool. If "other men" have access to the quality females "first," then he will either have to impregnate "less preferred" females (which will compromise the chances of his offspring's survival and reproductive preference), and eventually, be locked-out of the gene pool (as his descendants die a slow death, becoming more and more inferior with each generation, until they eventually become extinct through the process of natural selection).

    Nevertheless, time doesn't "stand still" until a "preferred" male pays attention to a female. She is getting older and less "preferable" and fertile. So, unless she's able to "attract" and "extract" the "preferred" male "before" other females do or distract him from her... her genetic progeny will suffer a similar fate.

    • From a negotiation point of view, men have the luxury of "multiple" reproductive opportunities running simultaneously (i. e., not limited to a few child births at a time), as well as "time" (i. e., men remain fertile much longer than women remain fertile). Thus, the guy doesn't really care as much about "not being attractive" to the opposite sex. Maybe the "preferred" male has had his day this 9-month period, but maybe that preferred male dies next turn, or is no longer the preferred next turn. So, patience is a luxury that men have. Women don't have that luxury. For women, time is of the essence. Other women are actively competing for a preferred male's attention, and trying to extract his genetic material (and in modern society, trying to get him to socially and economically "commit" to "her" .. "exclusively" .. i. e., to the EXCLUSION of OTHER WOMEN).

    • Men don't give nearly as many fucks about things like how sexually attractive they are to the opposite sex, how to use sex to get what they want from the opposite sex, or how to exclude the same sex from their pregnant partner (because, hello, she's pregnant) ... as much as women care about such things. The "one" thing men care about is sexual "frequency." The male brain has evolved to equate sexual "frequency" as a measure of social hierarchy. Even if that frequency is with the same female partner. Even if that frequency is not even through sex, but through a handjob. It communicates "sexual acceptance by a female." When men receive that with "frequency," their testosterone and other key androgen hormone levels increase, and they perform better physically, mentally, and socially (through increased social dominance). Conversely, when sexual frequency is lower, even if he's having "sex" with "more women," a man feels lower on the social hierarchy.

    • There is probably good evolutionary reason for those circuits being hard-wired in a guy's head. After all, if the brain thinks it's having sex with females very often, chances are (20,000 years ago), that the entire village was probably being populated by that guy's kids. When those kids grew up, half the town was probably loyal and subservient to him as their father. So, "sexual frequency" became a "proxy" for how comfortable and secure a man would feel in his place in society. That's probably the only aspect of sex that men are "obsessed" with, but something that's no longer even dependent on women. fMRIs have shown that masturbation to images and sounds of attractive females produces the same positive mood brain patterns as reaching orgasm through sex does.

  • Its a stupid ass stereotype that irritates the hell out of me. If anything I say women are more obsessed over it than men. but they are too busy worrying about how they will look according to the eyes of society, making up names and shit to justify crap that doesn't exist.
    Many say men obsess over it... why the fuck not, what choice do they have?

    If you hold the Key to the cookie closet, of course you AREN'T going to obsess over cookies. its the OTHER people that Don't have access that will try and eventually Seem obsessed. The key holder wants cookies too, but because they hold the key, it seems like they aren't obsessing.
    Translation... we all want it equally, but just because women hold back, it makes it seem like men want it more.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well.. I can't comment on just how true the stereotype about how much men love sex is true as I've obviously never experienced that first hand.

    However, women are certainly much more 'obsessed' with sex than most give them credit for. Yes, some of us actually do love and crave sex, and don't participate purely to appease their man. Yes, for some women (myself included), sex crosses our mind a LOT during the day, including not so appropriate times.

    • I think it is gradually changing as women are overcoming the days of being pushed aside and neglected. Perhaps once women get over the whole 'sex is a prize and you must not put out soon' mentality, we will begin to realize that both genders crave sex equally.

  • My ex definitely was. He said it wasn't normal for us to have sex once or twice a week. He said we should've been doing it between 5-6 times and when I didn't want to, he threw bitch fits. He's turned me off from sex. I have no interest in sleeping with another guy for a very long time. I felt like my body wasn't mine anymore and that was the worst feeling.

    • 5-6 times? I think the average is like once a week for most couples in the U. S.

    • That's what I told him and he said that wasn't true and that he felt like I was withholding from him because I enjoy him begging. Um, no boo, you beg because you don't respect me when I say I'm tired or not tonight. It can't just be because I'm not in the mood, it has to be because I wanted to torture him. He said we needed to have sex more or he'd find someone else. I didn't sleep with him last week so he ghosted me and is looking for girls online. He's pathetic.

    • It sounds like he mostly want you for your body that is not good.

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  • On average, yes, but there are some women with higher libidos than many men & some men with lower libidos than many women.

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  • Steve Harvey was just on TV at my work. The answer is B according to scientific studies

  • It is biological... Men have more male hormons than women and they make your sexdrive bigger

  • I think that the 2 genders are close in this regard, but that men are somewhat above women in sex-obsession. I think the reason the gap is perceived as being so huge is because men and women are more outspoken and vocal about men's obsession with sex. For example, we even have a word for women who are outspoken and public with their sexuality: Sluts. "Studs" on the other hand are just guys with the "normal amount of sexual obsession for a male" who have developed the skill and intelligence necessary to seduce and bed so many women (and before you start screaming sexism just look up the Jim Jeffries video "Jim Jefferies On Sluts Vs Studs Debate") Really men and women have almost the same level of obsession with sex. Its just that male sexuality is public and open, while female sexuality is private and personal. This is all generically speaking of course.

  • Men wants sex more. But I think women think about it just as much. Testosterone is the main culprit.

  • Automatic yes. A girl tends to become more addicted to it if they've done it once. But for guys its like anything and everything will have them jumping from bed to bed.. "Most"

  • I have seen a lot of women that are just obsessed with sex as men so I voted C.

  • I think it is just more socially acceptable for men to be vocal about their desires than it is for women.

  • Yup.

  • lol, I'm still gonna say HELL YES :P

  • Why is it almost universally men rather than women who pay for it, then?

    • LOL this

  • Men tend to go more overboard with their obsession with it than women.

    • @Mustachekitteh What would be your definition of overboard?

    • @ManOnFire Going to extreme lengths to get women into bed. Which a lot of times it ends up with them in your face and sounding desperate. Though not all dudes do that but there is still a lot more dudes doing that than women. Women tend to be more discreet about it.

    • @ManOnFire Oh... I don't know... Maybe rape?

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  • I think it depends. Due to the fact that most women dont orgasm from sex regularly or have trouble having orgasms compared to men, then its a reasonable assumption that more men would enjoy sex bc they get orgasms.

    But if women do get great sex then they are far more likely to want it more. So i think to say that men want sex more than women isn't a simple test and there are variables as the one mentioned above which would greatly skew results.

    I think women are actually hornier than what society is portraying and a lot of the time if a woman is having great sex she is much more of a horny animal than the man. But to make it fair im gonna say about even.

    • Curses you figured out our secrets! :D

  • He fucks me 4 times and I push up on him 10 minutes later.. lol. I'm faithful always, but I love to fuck

  • It's even from my experience I do think women collectively are less open about sex to save face.

    I'm in a really good relationship with a lovely girl who, is really shy about asking for sex but I pick up when she's in the mood most the time.

    My previous relationship was with a man hating bitch. Who would bite my head off & talk down on me 24/7. It's almost as if she was afraid to treat me right because it make her feel like she was bellow me? But durring see she always loved me to be dominate. If you want my 2cwnts women are naturally submissive & because of feminist ideals some women are afraid to be & that ruins sex & relationships for a lot of people.

    • It's even from my experience I do think women collectively are less open about sex to save face. I'm in a really good relationship with a lovely girl who, is really shy about asking for sex but I pick up when she's in the mood most the time. My previous relationship was with a man hating bitch. Who would bite my head off & talk down on me 24/7. It's almost as if she was afraid to treat me right because it made her feel like she was bellow me? But during sex she always loved me to be dominate. If you want my 2 cents women are naturally submissive & because of feminist ideals some women are afraid to be & that ruins sex & relationships for a lot of people. sorry Edit typed 1st one on phone

  • I think it's even. We live in a sex obsessed world, and a lot of people like to have sex simply because it makes them feel good. It's simply the reality of it.

  • Contrary to popular belief (?) many age-old beliefs are actually true.

  • WOW, I'm so surprised as to how many DELUSIONAL people are on GAG, LMFAO

    Without a doubt.. the answer is A./YES.

    How can people think it's women or even equal? How many things associated with sex is directed towards/made for men vs. women?

    Strip clubs... how many male strip clubs are near you... there aren't any near me but there are a dozen regular strip club within 15 miles.

    Porn... sorry to say is made for men/by men... I think that is what makes it, trashy, low quality.

    Guys always talk about sex, wanting sex, staring at girls, etc.

    It's proven that testosterone is one of the key factors with sex drive/libido and naturally men's levels are higher. It is also known that when a girl is ovulating her testosterone levels rise.

  • It's evolutionary guys are more aggressive

  • We're just better at hiding it I guess.

    • More mature and respectable about it too!

    • @truthbeknown I think guys are more open about it cause that's how we flirt and convince girls to have it in the first place.

    • This pretty much answers it. Girls just hide it better / only talk about it with each other or only with guys they truly and fully trust. I think plenty of guys would be shocked realising what girls actually talk to each other about sex.

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  • In my experience, men are more obsessed with actually having it. Women are more obsessed with the events leading up to it.

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