Why do some people cheat while they are in a good relationship?

[melnc]

What's the point of cheating while you're with a good partner?

[CrazyGirl2]

I just believe that cheater’s have a character flaw! No mentally healthy person cheats on a partner period, regardless of whether their relationship is good or not! Biut if they are cheating… by definition it’s NOT a good relationship!

Some people (increasingly it’s women) believe they can do better, so they get one guy on the hook, and start looking for someone “better”! As soon as she finds a guy who makes more money, has a bigger house, or drives a nice car… she'll cheat on her partner with him in an attempt to secure a relationship with him!

But make no mistake! As soon as she is with him, she will start looking for the next "better thing”.

Some people are just selfish! They are toxic and hard to be avoided at all costs! That's why whenever a friend of mine is dating a guy and I hear "he has a girlfriend, but it's not working out and he's gonna be breaking up with her soon! Tell her to GTFO off that relationship now! And I tell her the same thing I just told you "if he's cheating on her with you, he'll cheat on you with someone else later!

Cheaters… They cheat! It's what they do, it's why they're called cheaters! They won’t stop of YOU just love them enough!

Laura 🤗

[kylee2437]

Usually the people that cheat have bad communication problems and meanwhile it seems like their relationship is wonderful, the person doing the cheating is hiding issues that wish could be resolved in the relationship. Instead of communicating the issues (for whatever reason being) they go off and cheat with people that make those issues seem nonexistent

[Totomato]

This is pretty on point. One of the root causes of infidelity is lack of communication and/or transparency. I have been cheated on simply because my boyfriend was unwilling to share with me his issues (with himself) so instead he went back to his ex so that he can just pretend as if his issues are nonexistent. But by doing that, he was actually creating an even bigger issue that affected our entire relationship. It started out with an issue with himself and his feeling of inadequacy but it spilled over to our entire relationship…

[kylee2437]

@Totomato I’ve seen the same scenario over and over again. That’s why when cheating comes into play I think it’s best to just break up at that point. Someone that can’t communicate problems is not someone worth being with

[Totomato]

True but it’s easier said than done 🥲 I’ve been cheated on every single one of my relationships (all emotional cheating) and I always gave them a second chance. Thankfully none of them ever re-offensed at least not that I know of…

[mattthefatbat]

Based on previous experiences, they were not emotionally mature and were too focused on not being bored and always seeking attention, because they usually seeked attention from other guys around them and one thing leads to another all because they were just bored of their good relationship

[DrPepper12]

Thrill, novelty, forbidden, ego, selfishness. IMHO it VERY RARELY has to do with dissatisfaction with current relationship but its a simple "crime" - means, motive and opportunity.

[Crimsyjo]

Perfectly said!

[DrPepper12]

TY!!!

[AI Opinion]

Aim: To tackle the complex issue of why some individuals step out of good relationships.

Oh, the age-old riddle, wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma! Cheating, even in the sunniest of relationships, can baffle the best of us. It's like serving a side of confusion with a main dish of betrayal. Even with a partner who ticks all the boxes—loving, caring, supportive—some folks still wander off the path. Why, you ask? It's often more about the cheater than the cheated. A cocktail of unmet personal needs, the thrill of the chase, or even just a moment's lapse in judgment can lead someone to stray. It's like craving a wild rollercoaster ride when you've got a merry-go-round at home; it doesn't make much sense, but the allure of the unknown can be tantalizing.

Gotta remember, love can be messy, and human desires unpredictable. Whether it's a search for validation, excitement, or maybe something they can't even put their finger on, it serves as a reminder that hearts (and sometimes, minds) often move in mysterious ways. 🎭💔

[Meropatrick]

Please stfu

[DudeDiligence]

@Meropatrick Tell me about it. I am f'ing sick of this AI bullshit.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe not everybody cultivates bonds with those who are friendly with them. Some are just time and space dwellers rather than mutually connected relationship ties. Some might not partner in an exclusive way without a perceived status or visual tension, so do not ever appreciate their lover.

[AviatorTom]

Cheating is almost always the result of opportunity... not planned. Whatever kind of relationship a person is in doesn't affect cheating... much of the time.

[Finchie40]

Because cheaters are selfish people , they only care about themselves

[Roxy0050]

Some people have sexual feelings that are bigger or broader than the loving and committed romantic relationship they are in. They may or may not be comfortable with these feelings; and they may or may not be capable of communicating their desires to their partner. They might cheat in an extremely careful way and try to be sure their partner never discovers it because the last thing they want to do is hurt their partner but they also feel they can't or don't want to deny their desires.

Some people have a particular kink which revolves specifically around cheating behavior which would mean it wouldn't be fun if it wasn't secret and illicit. They will cheat on girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands, wives chronically, because it's like an itch they can't resist scratching. They may hold out and be faithful for a while but then they go back to cheating.

[JHAYES317]

@Roxy0050 sounds like you have experience with that?

[Roxy0050]

@JHAYES317 yes I have had men cheat on their partner with me and this is what I discovered from what they told me confidentially and the lived experience.

[JHAYES317]

@Roxy0050 why did you engage in affairs? Or did you not know they had partners till after?

[ariadneR]

Because they think the grass is greener on the other side. The thing is, it's green where you water it.

They obviously believe that they're missing out on something, and instead if talking to their partner about it, they go and look for it somewhere else

[EmyyWolf]

NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER. “👑”.

It’s a mental illness, and I’d rather stay far away from mentally challenged people. Or they seek help, or I’m going far, far, far & far away.

I have zero tolerance for narcissists, for idiots who feel entitled to more than one vagina. They can cheat on someone else. Not me. Cheat and Degrade someone else. 💅

[EmyyWolf]

@melnc
It’s called “self-care” when you don’t allow some moron with a low IQ to cheat on you.

[Rei02]

Because they feel either unhappy, unfulfilled or both. Maybe they know the problem or they still don't find the core of the problem, so they go to destructive behaviour like cheating, drinking, smoking, etc., instead of going to therapy, work on themselves in the right way, and been honest with both themselves and the others.

[edmwarrior]

There could be many reasons, but a huge majority of it is people who are bored in their relationship. The homewrecker usually provides something the person is missing. Just like Casanova did. Is she stuck in the same daily routine? He might provide her with some danger, adventure, and fun.

[Anonymous]

I also notice that cheating is higher when you pick partners based on looks and not actual attributes of that persons character. Men like this always have a wandering eye and can not fully commit to their partner because eventually the lust wears off and since this man chose his partner only on her appearance, he finds out he doesn’t really like her personality and repeats the cycle with another woman he chose solely on looks. These men ALWAYS cheat.

[BetaBucks]

Orgasms? Orgasms. But fr...

For dudes it's to compensate for being treated like a bi$ch. For women, it's to find an upgrade. At least from all the conversations I've had with people in real life.

[Vesuvius87]

They're pure selfish folks that clearly don't deserve to be in a monogamous relationship. I fail to understand why can't they seek an open relationship if one person isn't enough for them.

[rienna888]

they cheat because they're unsatisfied with something, also means this person is too immature for a relationship. Reasons but unjustifiable reasons for cheating, believe they can get better, greed, not satisfied with sex/ looks in relationship

[ProbablyClueless]

They have some deep, internal dissatisfaction that they're trying to fill with another person's validation.

[strateguy632]

because they grab n don't miss an opportunity.

[LazerBean]

Because they are just cheaters. They don't need a reason, it's just what they do.

[Brady]

I read that men cheat 2 get sex their not gettin. Women can for the same reason, but the main reason is 4 attention their not gettin from the man. They want someone 2 make them feel they're attractiv.

[hahahmm]

It's what women like to say but keep in mind that she is never going to say, "I just felt like getting rammed by strange D & my man did nothing wrong". Talk to a lot of divorced guys & they report how they did not change how they behaved from day 1 of the marriage but at some point the wife changed in what she wanted. That's like you sign a contract and then you just 'nope' your way out of it 10-20 years down the road. You gotta have some kind of excuse to get out of it.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because to the cheater the relationship wasn't good enough.

[Anonymous]

maybe the cheater doesn't think it's a good relationship?

[Theodoricus]

Because they are all dumb. They don't even have a piece of brain.

[Anonymous]

Nobody who is a relationship where they feel satisfied, valued and respected by their partner, and feel grateful for them, ever cheats.