Is it normal to show a little jealously when you like or love someone but not in a toxic way?

[Anonymous]

[kylee2437]

Jealousy is a form of possessiveness. It really depends on the couple and how far you take that jealousness. If you are constantly pitting blame on your partner because of your jealousness , that’s an issue, however if you are keeping it to yourself and taking things like a grain of salt there’s no harm

[hahahmm]

If it is a reaction to something unreasonable being done by the other person it is a symptom of relationship issues caused by the other person not a cause of the issues in itself. So it depends on those kinds of details. People who are only in short term or non serious relationships don't get it because they are always essentially single/free to move on with zero responsibility to stay. Not the same thing when you're married, engaged.

I'm not saying there's value in showing jealousy tho. There's other ways to communicate. For example, if my wife decided to start being close friends with a dude, I would just become close friends with a couple of smoking hot women. This is a form of communication that doesn't require me to emote. But my wife is smart enough not to go down that road & interested in us having a strong relationship.

[Hug-ee-bear]

I have to agree with one of the responses below. Jealousy is toxic no matter what - it's a sign of a well of unmet need, and resultant unhealthy possessive insecurity. If the word is changed to to "concerned", then we're in different territory. The closer our bond with another, the more invested we are emotionally. When we get tothe point where we fully accept the other person regardless of faults or shortcommings, and that acceptance is returned, then we feel something very special. It is normal to have concern that that another might want to "move on" your something special; however, such concern is best shared with your partner and discussed. Eventually, it all comes down to trust and knowing that the other person feels that YOU are truly exceptional, that you are irreplaceable, that you are valued above others.

[DishLady]

Jealousy is toxic by definition. Even in its cutest forms it’s harmful to the future of the relationship because it has hidden implications for the future.


I was ldr with someone who mentioned something that seemed akin to jealousy and at first I thought it was a cute type of possessive behavior, but the topic kept coming up… unfounded… which then creates distance at best. Having been married to a super jealous guy, that’s a red flag for potential reactive behavior and even possible abuse down the line.

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely, sparking a bit of the green-eyed monster can be both normal and healthy in a dash of romance! It shows you're invested and that you care. Think of it like adding a pinch of salt to your favorite dish – just the right amount can enhance the flavors of love and connection. But remember, the key is moderation. Too much and it becomes overwhelming, leading to a recipe for disaster. So, keep it light, playful, and ensure open communication to keep the balance just right. It's like dancing under the moonlight - it's all about finding the right rhythm. 😉

[Finchie40]

A little jealousy is fine , it shows the person really cares about you and loves you and doesn’t want to lose you , but if they are extreme jealous that’s a red flag

[Wallythewalrus2]

A little jealousy is fine and can actually show a secure relationship to both people in it. I love it when my wife becomes jealous, because, as someone else said, it shows she still loves me and doesn't want anyone coming between us. Of course, the key words are "a little" jealousy. The other thing that can lead to problems, is if you pick on the other person for being jealous. My wife would do that to me and it really did piss me off.

[RavVid]

Mate guarding is common across species. So accompanying jealously would be too. In fact it has been observed in birds.

So I think we can say it is normal and just part of primal sex instincts in pair bonding species. It is not a bad thing if it is not toxic

[ManOnFire]

Mmmmm... maybe very mild jealousy. But you still have to go easy with that. A jealous partner can be really unattractive, and it shows possessiveness to the one you love. Your partner sees that you're jealous and that let's them know you have no strength.

Jealous men are the worst, they will try to tell their woman not to be talking to a guy she knows. That's such a catty female thing to do and does not look good on a man at all.

[JacobJordan]

Neither I nor my wife are jealous of the other or the attention the other receives. Every healthy relationship I have seen has been the exact same way. To such a degree it has thus far proved the monicur my parents quoted me growing up. Jealousy is spelled with lousy for a reason

[Darkchild25]

Definitely! And its a healthy thing to have. I as a man love when my woman makes sure that other women know I'm hers. Like if we attend a function and she can see a woman trying to flirt with me... I would be oblivious but she'd soon shut her down. I don't mean in a cussing nasiwas. Just come over to me take hold of my arm hug me around the waist. You know like back off he's mine. She can tell me the woman was flirting later.😅

[Anonymous]

Jealousy is a natural human emotion. Like anger, sadness, fear, envy and other negative human emotions it is what makes you human to feel it.

But how much you act on it comes down to self control. And if someone acts over the top jealous then they either lack self control and/or have other deep rooted serious issues.

[DrPepper12]

I think a little envy or jealousy is a GREAT THING for a relationship. Im zero percent jealous of anything and i actually find it amusing AF to watch cuz i know she's still coming home with me.

[meepmeeperton]

Yes it’s normal and it can even come off as cute or endearing in relationship.

[Anonymous]

In terms of you feel some ownership over them and fear that they may be taken by someone else. I guess a little jealousy is normal.

Or did you have something else in mind?

[Emmytexrex]

Jealousy is a natural human nature if people say they don't feel jealous when they like someone they are not only lying to other but to themselves

[ProbablyClueless]

A little bit of jealousy is fine and normal.

[Sasquach]

If you're a lover you gotta be a fighter, because of you don't fight for your love what kind of love do you have - Keanu Reeves

[written_in-the-stars]

Little bit of possessiveness and jealousy is normal, but anything more than a grain of salt is toxic

[bobby_bush_eater]

It's human nature at times to be jealous. It's your behaviors when you get that feeling that is important

[loveslongnails]

Normal? Yes. Valid? No. It's a flaw on your part.

[handsomelad70]

Yes. It shows you love that person if it doesn't become toxic.

[DreamLife7]

No it's not normal bc he doesn't like u lol 😂. So why u jealous over a man that don't want u

[spartan55]

Not normal to me. I have zero tolerance for it.

[fantasticass]

I'm the same. I view it as psychopath behavior.

[jahaims]

Jealousy is immature