Is it OK to isolate yourself? How long is too long?

[Justneedtokno]

I feel like I isolate myself for the good of others not to be a bother or nuisance or problem and I feel like I annoy people with my questions and thoughts and comments and sometimes we all need a little alone time and everybody needs a break.
Sometimes I feel like maybe I shouldn’t go back and talk to people at all

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Please don’t give me wrong. I do have these moments of extroverted. Ness where I go out hang out and do things but sometimes my social battery has to recharge. I’ll be around family and do a lot of things and after a while of putting myself out there it’s almost as if I have to retreat and I’ve done enough and a lot and I know at some point I need to find a partner, but if they haven’t seen me or found me at this point, I feel like I’m doing the most and a lot and I feel desperate than needy.

[lightbulb27]

introverted personality is real that makes us recharge away from people. That's fine and normal.

How long, who knows. some people pay $$$$$$ to go on retreats o get away.

They more you heal in your heart and develop a positive emotional view of humanity, the more you want to engage with them. e. g Christianity in my opinion... encourages you to go towards the trouble and help others. If you are scared of people, easily hurt by them, you may want to stay away from the conflict.

[slatyb]

That's a sign of depression and pro self-esteem. You imagine you are avoiding being a burden on others but in reality you are increasing their concern. I've done this and so has my brother. Reach out to your friends and family. They will be relieved that you are talking. Get counseling if you can. Antidepressants might help. There are several different types. If one type doesn't work, try another.

[Justneedtokno]

I never thought of it in a depressive status that’s a new concept

[slatyb]

"not to be a bother or nuisance or problem" that's a sign of depression and low self-esteem. You are worthy of friendship. We all have needs and we get through by helping each other.

[DishLady]

It's ok to give yourself a time out from social stuff when you know you'll misrepresent yourself if you go to functions etc when you're not feeling good about things in your life. If your schedule is too hectic or you've been through a bad breakup, etc. etc. it's ok to take some time -- like 30 days. Gradually start making yourself move ahead and open up again after 30 days. That's enough time to overcome your funk and bounce back.

[IslaTheWitch]

if you want to isolate yourself because of the reasons you described, it's definitely wrong... In this case, you need professional help, not isolation...

find a psychologist and work on your lowered self-esteem... it will help you not feel a bother, nuisance, or problem to others...

[Sonorous]

It becomes too long when you feel dissatisfied with the way you're currently living.

[NathanDavis]

I think therapy would be a better option to deal with these anxieties

[SotiCoto]

I an urban hermit. I couldn't exactly have a negative opinion of self-isolation, could I? I haven't seen anyone besides shopping delivery drivers in the past month or so.

[OddBeMe]

Don’t do anything for the sake of others. I isolate from the assholes of everyday life.

[MacDaddyRico]

I've been a loner most all my life, never feeling like I fit in, or choosing not to associate with the many idiots who inhabit this planet.
Oh, I've been social and have had many friends, but I still tend to pretty much keep to myself.

[Charliefretz329]

I’m an introvert at heart and definitely need isolation to recharge. It’s a fine line between the hermit life and insanity though 😆

[Grond21]

Sounds like avoidant attachment style

[Justneedtokno]

🤔 hmmm Can you give me more details of this?

[Grond21]

I'd be happy to. Would you prefer a video or an article?

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't think you need to isolate yourself.

[Justneedtokno]

We’ve been friends for a while. I think you get me now.

[Jamie05rhs]

I do. 🙂

[Sasquach]

Take as much time as you need, this isn't a race

[Iron_Man]

More then a week

[shortster]

A year of isolation is too much.

[Awantika03]

Break is necessary in life 🧬

[Staximus]

Maybe for a short amount of time

[justabuddy]

As long as you need to.

[Anonymous]

I always do, I hate being around people