I'm 35, and most of my friends in their 30s are getting married, but still I don't want it. Is it normal not to dream of getting married? Or the problem is that I've never had a long-term relationship where I could plan such things...
Marriage isn't for everyone. Not everyone feels the need to have a piece of paper and a ceremony to show your commitment to one another. It very well could be that you haven't found the right person just yet, and you really won't know till you do. I myself didn't really find the value in marriage. However, my opinion on it had changed slightly. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. He's known my feelings on it from the beginning. Yet I find myself feeling like I would probably be all for it were he to ask.
If that is truly what you believe/want then there shouldn’t be any problem with it. We are conditioned to believe that the “norm” is to find a partner, get married and have children. And we are convinced that anything different from that isn’t normal.
Maybe it could be the latter, but have you ever wanted to be in a long term relationship or do you feel “forced” to do it?
It’s not the same thing, but I’ve decided that I don’t want children. People should respect my opinion and concentrate on their own lives.
Thats only because you haven't found someone. I feel as if I dont care, but I never find anyone, as if all women are dead and you ladies here on the internet are actually Ai... no offense. I would care if there was someone, but at 41 with always being single, how long am I supposed to wait?🤷🏻♂️
The majority of women now will never get to have a happy long term relationship. They have made too many bad decisions and wasted their opportunities, so I guess it is "normal " now for more women to not dream of something they can never have.
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Absolutely, it's normal! Everyone's got their own timeline, their own dreams, and their own idea of what happiness looks like. While it might seem like all your friends are racing towards the altar, it doesn't mean you have to lace up your running shoes and join them unless you truly want to.
Marriage is a big commitment, and it's something that should be entered into because it's right for you, not because it seems like the next box to tick off on society's checklist of life achievements. Some people dream of the big wedding day, the lifelong partnership, and everything that comes with it. Others might find fulfillment in solo adventures, career achievements, close friendships, or a myriad of other life experiences that don't necessarily include marriage.
It's also worth considering that what we want changes over time. Just because you're not dreaming of marriage right now doesn't mean you won't ever want it, and vice versa. Life has a funny way of surprising us with what we end up desiring as we grow and our circumstances change.
If you feel content and fulfilled with where you are right now, that's what matters. You're not on anyone else's schedule but your own. Keep focusing on what brings you joy and fulfillment, and let the marriage cards fall where they may—or may not.
I never dreamed of being married either but then I ended up married and it's the best decision I've ever made. Not sure how people never commit to someone that they truly love. Just being boyfriend and girlfriend forever is kind of odd and childish. It doesn't even have to be legal marriage. It's possible to do a spiritual marriage to prove love and devotion to each other.
it's fine, some people are like that. a lot of women nowadays never get married or have kids
though you probably should think really hard about it if you truly aren't interested in that at all just to be sure (same with the whole kids thing), because it's going to get harder and harder the longer you wait for both. and beyond a certain point it's unlikely to happen. so if you have regrets too late can be a problem. though if your sure of yourself, all power to you
It is entirely up to you if you want to find a life partner. It is largely a romantic gesture in my view and an incredibly bad financial decision by a man.
yeah, its slowly getting common not to want to marry. However it remains uncommon for women to not want to marry at all. Except in China. 40-50% of the girls in China reported not wanting to marry.
Just because your friends are doesn’t mean you have to… One of my friends had a kid, that doesn’t mean I have to find someone and have a kid too.
I'd say it's normal. It's either you want to be married or you don't. You can get married at any age really, so I wouldn't worry about it.
My brother has been wanting me to get married so that he can have nephews or nieces. Honestly I am happy being single and marriage isn't for everyone especially with people not getting married in today's world.
What is normal?
I like being married… 2times 👍
Some people are just NOT marriage material. That is not always a bad thing, unless you whine about it.
I'll never understand why people need to get married. Always following the herd. Marriage doesn't change anything, but make an expensive divorce when it doesn't work out..
It's fine. Not all women dream of getting married. You're fine.
Uts not normal. You've been mislead. It's already to late for you. Your options are suicide, depression, marrying a divorced failure.
if you don't want to get married, what is the problem? no issue here.
Everyone just get divorced anyways, nothing wrong with just having a boyfriend and not getting married.
What DO you want? It's less important to worry about what you DON'T want than it is to focus on what you DO want.
It's perfectly fine. Marriage is an outdated concept that holds no place in the modern world
no at 35 not normal at all, it is very hard to take care of yourself as you get older
Everyone has different thoughts and feelings towards marriage.
m it's ok
u just not into it
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