What makes a man decide whether or not he feels respect for a woman as a person?

[HappyWoman34]

[loveslongnails]

I think everyone deserves respect "as a person", but you don't have to respect "how they act or even think". You might say, "well, doesn't how you act and think DEFINE you as a person", and you'd have a good point. There's a fine line there.

[LiamS95]

Well first of all she has to show that she respects herself

[Flatmanlewis]

How she’s treats him, herself, and others.


A woman who loves her man will respect him and treat him as such in public. She will treat him with respect at home and recognize his accomplishments and goals.


She will treat herself in a way that recognizes her her own dignity and will carry herself and conduct herself accordingly. Respect for herself is also respect for him. Few things as bad, as a man, as being embarrassed by or for your woman.


Lastly, she is a lady and politeness and courtesy are part of who she is. She doesn’t treat others in any way except one that is aware that all people deserve some measure of respect regardless of whether they are equal to her or less, in any way.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

First & foremost, if she's a 304, there's no respect whatsoever. Now that that's out of the way, a woman that treats him with dignity & respect is who he will respect. The prerequisite for this is that he has to be a respectful guy himself. He can't be a disrespectful jerk himself & still respect a woman who gives him dignity & respect. The jerk guy will just treat her like trash like anyone else.

[handsomelad70]

I'm old, so clue me:What the Devil is a "304?"

[handsomelad70]

I should have typed, "I'd respect her as a person, but NOT as a potential partner if she were clad and/or behaved a certain way."

[TommyMountainFigure]

@handsomelad70 a 304 in cockney rhyming slang is a wh*re

[handsomelad70]

@TommyMountainFigure Oh. Thanks for the 411, TommyMountainFigure.

[82lynx]

@handsomelad70 My first thought upon seeing 304 was that it was an unusual reference to stainless steel. Makes no sense I know.

[handsomelad70]

@82lynx Except Leap Year, Halloween is the year's 304th day. (I moved into my building Halloween 2015, which was the 304th day of that year into Room... THREE ZERO FOUR !!!)

[82lynx]

@handsomelad70 Cool! 👍🏻

[Rami_NL]

I think that respect is on many levels.

If a woman cannot keep her word, changes mind too often and is not reliable or sincere, I lose respect in the sense that I don't take her seriously.

If a woman is mean or outright manipulative I lose respect on a different level, in the sense that I consider her bad and I cut any contact.

For relationships #2 is a red flag and a deal breaker and for friendships as well.

[NathanDavis]

I respect people as people... from the get-go

[DrPepper12]

Nope! They have to earn it. Confucianism had that part wrong.

[NathanDavis]

@DrPepper12 i don't want to be miserable with cynicism... no thanks, lol

[DrPepper12]

Every one gets the benefitof the doubt... Until they prove otherwise.

[Miristheiss]

If she has high character, virtue, empathy, is kind, doesn't gossip, doesn't get drunk or cuss a lot, is lady-like, is modest.

[sage2021]

@Miristheiss
You just described me 🙂

[slatyb]

I respect people who respect others, who do as they promise. That's about all their is.

[Billlewis]

Just the fact that she exists is sufficient.

[Vegasrunner]

Her body count. Men understand how other men think about women so the more men that have run through her the less respect she gets.

[Raaj4you]

I am a bit misogynist. But I respect girls/ women who are nice and respectful towards men. I hate and avoid rude, agressive, disrespectful women.

[Anonymous]

Her body count.. the more guys she has been with the less respect she deserves.

[HappyWoman34]

Are you religious, at all?

[Opinion Owner]

No I am not

[HappyWoman34]

So, the mere fact that a woman isn’t a virgin and has a past is enough to turn you off? I’m not being judgmental, just exploring your perspective.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it's a turn off for sure if it's a large number. If she had serious boyfriend for a long time I get that. And that's not a problem. It's the girls that just fuck everyone that I wouldn't have long term relationships with.

[Twalli]

Whether or not he's sexist, racist, ageist, or any other "-ists" thatcould mean he doesn't respect other people.

[Awesomesauce2005]

The way she treats people around her including me.

[handsomelad70]

Generally (at least for me) her dress and deportment.

[Nifrayu]

I guess it's just based on whether or not she's a good person.

[Charliefretz329]

How she treats others. As a man, especially how she treats men.

[Paul09]

Respect for respect. Pretty simple. With everyone really.

[JacobJordan]

How she dresses or acts in public

[DrPepper12]

If he gets respect he gives respect

[Booklover_90]

The way she carries herself.

[jahaims]

Who she is a as a person