For the men - How do you feel, when a woman gets mad at you?

[Anonymous]

[Billlewis]

Honestly, I actually kind of need that sometimes, and when it happens, it helps me maintain my emotional equilibrium. I mean, I don't want her to be so angry that she's threatening to dismiss me, but a good verbal dressing down is never administered too soon or too often.

[DishLady]

Dressed down, but not harshly honest, right? Most folks (guys or girls) don’t seem to appreciate the overly direct approach.

[Billlewis]

@DishLady I'll put it this way -- better a little too harsh than not harsh enough. That's why the world is going to hell, because we've lost the classic female authority figure.

[DishLady]

Aww. I like your answer so much. You’re a rare sort of guy.

[Billlewis]

@DishLady Oh my goodness... I think I just hit a home run❤️

[DishLady]

❤️😂 Straight outta the park.

[Billlewis]

@DishLady it takes a man to know where his strength comes from, because it doesn't matter how big, strong, super smart, influential you are, if you can't be made to feel diminished by someone else, and we all know who that 'someone else' is, and I never question a woman's authority, because I know she has my best interests at heart.

[DishLady]

Honestly, as long as both people are coming from a good, honest place and are humble about themselves, then yes, you’re 100% right. It’s when one of the two reprimands with the force of their ego that it becomes abrasive and unproductive, you know?

[Billlewis]

@DishLady Maybe if I'm lucky, you'll decide to start following me, do you can chat with me whenever you want, ma'am. Thank you very much.

[Asker]

It probably depends on the guy's personality yeah? What trait in you makes you maintain an equilibrium? Cause everyone's different.

[Claire2002]

Are you defining yourself a man? @Billlewis 🤔

[82lynx]

@Claire2002 Come on now, no need to be insulting.

(I’ll probably end up drawing fire for that one)

[Billlewis]

@82lynx That wasn't an insulting question, but even if it was, I wouldn't have been upset with her for asking it. Yes, ma'am, I absolutely consider myself a man, which is why I need a be humiliated from time to time, to help me maintain my sense of perspective.

[BCRanger10]

"Mantain you emotional equilibrium"... how?

[patrick994]

It depends on the reason, in all cases I try to calm her down or let her vent, the important thing is that she does not seriously insult me in a disparaging manner and that she does not put her hands on me.

[Asker]

lol it's hilarious to hear the fearful parts for you - 'She does not put her hand on me.'

Ok, I want to ask - If and when you were first interested in a woman and the feelings were mutual - how did you feel the 1st time she snapped at you?

[patrick994]

Luckily they never laid hands on me, I chose healthy and balanced people.

[MGTK7]

Fearful? No I think it's probably more like there is no going back from having gone this far in terms of disrespect type thing.

[Flatmanlewis]

I try and be open to whether it is justified or not. Do I owe an apology? Did I do something wrong? I usually ask what happened and try to talk about it. At this point one of three outcomes exist almost without exception.


A/ I realize I did mess up, own it, and apologize. Sometimes she’s over it quick and sometimes it lasts a bit.


B/ I realize I didn’t mess up and there is a gap between what I did or what happened and her understanding of the situation. I explain what happened and she understands, or she does not. If she doesn’t, then…


C/ I realize she cannot be reasoned with, the emotions have shut down any productive, logical, rational communication and therefore it is futile to speak - repeating the same points over and over. I say one single final time what I feel I need to say (even if it’s just an apology) and I walk away. We may not talk for the rest of the day. We may not talk for the rest of the week. Nonetheless emotional reactions are the domain of women and I have no business acting as such. Women are with men for the calm and stability we provide in life as protectors and sometimes that means protecting the relationship from ourselves. Keep compass pointed north and sail through the storm. The sun will come out again, soon enough.

[sage2021]

@Flatmanlewis
What an awesome opinion. Yay for you 👏

[Flatmanlewis]

Well, thank you very much Sage2021. Rather kind of you.

[sage2021]

I know this is for the guys, but it's kinda comical. May I.

When my boyfriend got me mad at him AGAIN I would let him know he's in the 🐕 dog house and to leave me alone, and I would shut the door. He would go over to his mom's when this would happen.
I threatened to buy a big enough real dog house bug enough to fit him and put it on the balcony.

If he was in the dog house AGAIN unbeknownst to him, I got a piece of paper, drew a dog house on it and put a sticker of a dog inside the house.

When I looked later, the note was gone. He told me later he took it and laughed all the way home.

Which got me pissed AGAIN 🐕

[Asker]

lol, that's hilarious and he seems to find ways to make it back fire at you!

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's a similar feeling to when a cat tries to attack you and you're trying to get it to stop but you have the power to kick it out of 11 of its 9 lives without even trying.

Not clear why it's attacking, but there's no amount of force you can really respond with.

So it ends up seeming kinda cute. It's like what are you gonna do? Pout at me? Scratch me? Lol

9 times out of 10 there isn't even a good reason to be mad.

[Asker]

lol, thats a cute answer!

[TommyMountainFigure]

I like her to be honest with me, so if she's mad, so be it. I will be just as brutally honest back. I won't hit a woman though, so if she gets mad enough to hit me? I have to leave as quickly as possible

[Asker]

That's very sweet! I felt that I get mad at a guy (not at work - outside of work) I actually care about him in some way. Like that, do guys have a way, that a woman can find out if he has feelings towards me?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes easily. If you get mad at him and he comes back afterwards, it means he cares enough about you to allow you to be yourself. That right there tells you he has feelings for you.

[Asker]

Thanks for that!

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're very welcome.

[red324]

I've always said the same thing. If they don't care to argue, then they don't care enough about you. Girls don't ever argue with me they just leave

[TommyMountainFigure]

@red324 I'm sorry to hear that!

[relax24]

doesn't make me feel good. because i feel like why is it that i can handle conflicts in a reasonable manner. like i want to find out whats got you upset. see if i can make things better. but instead of resolving things calmly. you go straight into meltdown mode like it's world war. and start slamming doors, punching walls or want to put something through a window.

And all i ask is for a peaceful resolution. not go onto the battlefield everytime

[Asker]

Yes that's true! Over the years I have tried my best to work on my emotions and taking control of those negative emotions. At least that way I can be responsible to curbing some aspect of the collision when it happens - Don't trouble the trouble, until the trouble troubles you.

Yes, it becomes world war and why does it always have to be that way? Is it because we like that person whole heartedly, that it feels hurtful, when they attack? Or is it because their fragile ego has not been handled respectfully by the other? Or it can be anything really. Why do you think we end up resorting to some sort of violence?

[relax24]

this is just from my own experience. but every time i've tried to resolve a conflict peacefully. violence seems to be the only answer for the other person. I just don't think violence should be the answer to all your problems. you can definitely figure it out a better way

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

personally, her problem. To clarify it depends on the why, where and when.

Is she mad for an actual reason or just because of some esoteric bs?

[DishLady]

Esoteric? 😂

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

@DishLady

Basically yes. Some random seldom heard of random reason. I had a girlfriend get annoyed one night because she didn't like how I folded my own damn towels in my own house.

[DishLady]

Oh… maybe she’s OCD or something? 🤷🏻‍♀️

One of my friends called me one time bc her guy freaked out that a glass of water spilled by his computer… I had to explain of course he did bc he’s a comp sci guy and his life is on the computer… but she is the towel-folding OCD maven. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

Lol esoteric reason!!

[Keyboardkat]

You know, we guys can't STAND the anger of women! It takes us right back to being four years old with our mothers! I don't mean just any woman, but if it's your own woman, like she's your wife, or your girlfriend, and she's important to you, and her opinion of you really matters to you, then it can be devastating, even if we don't show it!

[Confucious900]

Becasue... we can feel a... disturbance in the force...

but mostly we see when we talk to you and how you respond. That very cold shoulder, and the mmm and yea and okay short one liners we get. We know you are mad, and sometimes we dont get why.

Like really we are idiots. We can't read your minds ladies so sometimes you get mad at us for stuff we really are unware about.

If we messed up then yeah its different we can still see you are mad but then we know.

[Mr_twoface]

Wifey: It would be a lie to say that I am all cool. It's a working process. Sometimes I get upset and other times I make a point. Though rarely I let it ruin my day or the relationship.

Mother: I raise my voice. We both get upset. We swipe under the carpet and move on.

Women in general: I take it like a man and move on.

[Purpleronnie]

Really depends why she thinks she is mad at me and whether I think her anger is justified ( which it rarely is ) regardless of gender of your going to come at me with anger then I’m not going to listen. You need to calmly express what’s up in an adult way. I simply won’t talk to you at all until you do.

[Unit1]

I feel most often they got mad by themselves, not triggered by me. Crazy women.

[AviatorTom]

It happens all the time. My SO gets mad, typically claiming something I didn't do, or didn't do right. I typically let her vent and she eventually calms down. There's no point trying to defend myself or argue with her. A man rarely wins an argument with a woman, and the consequences are usually bad when he does.

[7Phoenix7]

Lol ‎ ‎

[V_Injector]

Depends on why. I don't put up with bullshit that comes from an emotional place. I don't care if she had a bad day, she has to treat me with respect.

With that said, if I did something that's logically and actually wrong, then I feel bad and try to make it right.

[lorenzomichael]

It all depends. Did I do something that I said I wouldn’t do? Or did I not do something that I said I would do? If it wasn’t either one of those things then I just leave her alone give her space. she’ll get over it, whatever it was and I’ll just get on my bike and take off or play my guitar.

[BCRanger10]

Right now, I only have my wife to worry about. I'm usually able to think of a quick solution though, because...

[libsaretards]

Depends on what the issue is.

There are things women get mad over that are just plain dumb. I will bluntly say this and not even participate in the discussion.

Then there are legitimate issues. Those I will try to have a mature conversation on and try to help her however I can.

[Pudsmucker]

It's called duck and cover and not stick my head out until the fury is past. Sometimes I've seen invisible hand grenades thrown at me because she pissed. I don't understand a mild kind person and their temperament changes in a heartbeat. I sometimes think I'd rather be in the pits of hell than being around my woman.

[sage2021]

@Pudsmucker
Just don't ever piss her off really bad, and she gets in her car to get away from you. Do no, I repeat, do not go in front of her car or she may very well run you over.
Those aren't invisible hand grenades, that's her stock pile she has them hidden in her closet. Shhhh!

[Pudsmucker]

@sage2021 lol
I was out walking one time when I had a break up with this one woman and I was crossing a crosswalk and she started running her car towards me at high speeds. That was about 50 years ago I look at it today and laugh.

[Rami_NL]

I feel that for being a woman, I don't own her a 'discount' in terms of pretending to agree, or not expressing my opinion for fear that she couldn't take it because she's too vulnerable. So I honestly don't spare what I think and if I genuinely think I'm wrong I admit it, but if I don't think I'm wrong I keep arguing.

[ThatBaldGuyOvetThere]

It depends on what it is and if it's reasonable or not. Yes I pick and choose my battles accordingly but it depends on why she's mad, and how she chooses to handle it.

It's OK to be mad at someone and let them know, but this culture that seems to coddle gaslighters and narcissistic people is NOT ok.

[patois]

I ignore them and give them 2-3 days to get their shit together and apologize. After that they are on thin ice. If they haven't apologized within a week, I kick them to the curb.