INTO YOU is simple... a guy is usually demonstrative about being into a girl --> Gives the girl a lot of his time and attention, chats her up about literally anything under the sun, blah, blah, blah. He's pretty smitten when he goes a step further, like...
- He switches from occasional to daily time and attention. It's so hard to get quality time out of some guys, but when they're smitten they'll find any moment they have to call/text/be with you.
- He finds reasons to mention you or use your wording with things. You're on his mind, so some mention of you or of something you said might make its way into conversation whether he wants it to or not.
- He'll call you pet names and offer kind/sweet words. Guys will say nice things and sound sweeter towards a girl when they're "sweet on" her. Their tone, facial expression... everything about them kind of switches over a little, sometimes overtly, sometimes just enough to be noticeable.
- He finds excuses to be close to you. Guys will find reasons to suddenly be in your personal space, to brush past you or touch you, hold a door or chair or anything to be helpful in a way that keeps them close to you.
- He lets down his guard for you. Guys can be on the grumpy, tight-lipped side in general. When he let's you tease him about stuff, starts joking with you and such, he's left his armor at the door to come be with you (so to speak).
- He asks and cares wtf happens to you (either in your past or present) but also knows how to give you space. He wants to know about your day, your life, etc.
- He's open to your opinion and doesn't (or TRIES not to) get defensive about feedback, opinions or stories you share with him.
- He looks over your shoulder to see what you're doing. (Not in the creepy/clingy/toxic way, but in a cute way because he's curious, like a little kid, often also using it as an excuse to hug you.)
- He gets physical with you. PDA becomes a thing even if he's not much of a PDA sort of person in general. He'll make the exception bc you're his girl.
- He shares and confides in you, walks alongside you through his troubles, and asks about/helps with yours. Once he's comfortable with you and knows you are as well, a guy will start sharing deeper stories about himself as a show of faith and trust.
There's a bit more, but you get the gist. There's "into you" which is preliminary (possibly not permanent) and "smitten" which is something he'll invest his heart, mind and soul... so you have to respect that about a guy and not take it for granted.
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I can very much tell when others are flirting with each other or when they are into each other or when someone likes a person I know, or when someone I know likes someone, but when it comes to me I am usually fucking clueless and surprised if they become more direct and express it.
But maybe that is because it is not something I really focus on.
That is possibly because I am not very much in touch with my feelings in general, let alone the feelings of others - especially romantic feelings towards me.
Damn I hope I explained it well since my thought-pattern is very chaotic.
Funny thing is I'm usually good at judging someone's character/personality by their exterior features (how they dress, move, and speak), but I've never been good at picking up if a girl is into me unless she was being super obvious about it.
If you are a girl talking about a guy, it's usually pretty simple: he'll be paying you a lot of attention, more than the average acquaintance. That's the biggest and most obvious indicator.
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Usually yes, if she is trying to see me or hear from me as much as possible , that usually indicates she is into me , also the way she looks at me or acts around me as well. I am pretty good with picking up on body language
Yes! I can absolutely tell when someone is into me. Most guys are not exactly subtle with their “peacocking”, or their flirting skills. But when you have to tell a guy 4 or more times to eff-off it’s pretty obvious he has no respect for your current relationship!
Laura hug 🤗No! Haha. I was gonna say yes. But actually I think it's massively hard to know if someone is just being friendly, is just a flirty person, or actually really likes you!
It's why dating is so damn hard these days!!
I cannot tell if someone is into me or not. I always think they might be, but then I'm not so sure anymore or IT turns out they aren't. Sometimes it's the other way around. IT would be great if there was a manual for this🫤
I can sometimes, especially when he makes it so obvious. Although at times boys behavior can confuse me... I wish I could just read their mind sometimes.
Yeah, I'm pretty observant, and plus I like to only pursue women if I know for sure that they are at least fairly attracted to me, so I look for those signs..
I can tell when someone is flirting with me, but not when they're into me.
It's hilarious because I can tell when someone is into a guy or girl friend from a mile away but when it's me, I'm blindNope, I usually have a hard time believing someone is into me too so doesn't rlly help
No im really poor at that, I default to them just being friendly and having a laugh.
Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money
I think we all can... consciously or subconsciously...
I'm an observer... I see it often :DOf course, I can. But I rarely pay attention to it. It doesn't matter who is into me. What matters is who has sparked my interest.
Yeah. They lick their lips, flick their hair, and it's just obvious.
If it’s overt, yes😂 Probably not as reliably if it’s subtle😅
I usually get some eyeballs 👀😁 or more intense eyeballs 👁️👁️ and it's not the type that are glaring - more like, staring (stare bear) lol 🐻🐨 - whether good or bad
This is a case of the dilemma of a broken sensor. We do not know if we don't get a reading because it is broken or because there isn't anything to measure.
My response when someone tries to tell me that they are into me
cluelesssssss
Well of course, she tells me she feels "stretched and burning" ?
Absolutely you should definitely feel it unless he's real small lol 😆 😂 😅
Easily. His eyes wonder. Lean in and smile and he starts tripping over his words. They'll love spending time with you, as if you're close friends. If you let him you might hear from him everyday. And if you want to see him, he'll be there.
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