Why do I get mad when my girlfriend hangs out with her friends?

[civic]

[Finchie40]

Depends on what your girlfriend is doing when she hangs out with her friends? Do they take her to clubs and bars and comes home odd hours of the night , or does she only hang out with them for a few hours and comes home at a reasonable time? If she isn’t staying out odd hours , every time she hangs with her friends , than she more than likely isn’t being up to no good , but if she is going to clubs and bars and coming home late? Than she is more than likely being up to no good. Don’t ever point fingers , until you point fingers at yourself first when it comes to friends, Good friends support your relationship and don’t try to come in between your relationship, but Toxic friends , try to sabotage your relationship and try to come in between , so if she has toxic friends that do that? You are best to have a talk with her and tell her how you feel , if nothing changes? Dump her ass. A loving girlfriend will make you her top priority , if her friends are more of a priority than you are to her? You are best to kick her to the curb where she belongs

[U4ea0]

When your girlfriend spends time with her friends, it may make you feel jealous or insecure. This is because you may be afraid that they will replace you as her primary source of support and connection. Additionally, she might be sharing details about her life with them that she hasn’t shared with you, which can also create tension between
the two of you.

[JustTryingToLife]

Insecurities? I don't know. Do you think that they sit there and talk s**t about you and try to get her to break up with you? Maybe you should invest in yourself some more. Work on your hobbies, friendships, external activities etc. Because hopefully you'll like that she has a life outside of your relationship if you had more of one too.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

That's for you to figure out, not me. But if she had a day out with her friends go hang out with yours. If you dont have any, go to meet-ups with people to make friends. So that way you both have your group of friends. The only thing I could th ink of is maybe you feel lonely when she leaves.

[Flatmanlewis]

Could be a lot of reasons but you need to dig into that hole and sort that. Being good to her and good to her friends is a winning move. She SHOULD have friends away from you (and you from her).


Unless they are importing some behavior or mindset that is impactful in a negative way, then you should just let it be. Address your own issue - be it insecurities, jealousy, or whatever and let her be her.

[Friendlybro79]

Most likely immaturity. It's healthy and normal for your girlfriend to want a night out with the friends. You're old enough to admit this which is great to recognize but you're too also too old to behave this way. Grow up my man. Just being direct with you and not trying to be mean or troll. Good luck.

[MisterWack]

You get jealous easily and is hard for you to grasp her having a good time with people who aren’t you (even though you have good times without her with friends too).

[Radiate143]

You are putting all your happiness in her validating your worthiness as a partner. Or, she has shown some shady behaviour. Or, you're jealous and nuts.

[waterliliestxt]

Because there is obviously something in your mind that has caused you to think this way. This is the start of toxic behavior, please do not continue this.

[DishLady]

Dude, no one can teach you why YOU get mad…. Why ARE you mad that she’s hanging out with her friends?

[rienna888]

That happened to me before too but it was due to my ex making it obvious that his friends were more important than our relationship. Lol is that the case for you?

[exitseven]

If her friends are all guys the used to date or had sex with I would be mad too.

[Booklover_90]

Do you have a life outside of her? Do you have friends of your own?

[Still-alive]

i dunno but perhaps you should get over yourself?

[DextroShade]

Who are her friends? Is she hanging out with dudes? Or promiscuous or feminist women?

[Anonymous]

Because you are controlling. Maybe you should examine why that is.

[handsomelad70]

If they're other broads, you may believe her girlfriends are trying to get her another chap.

[Theodoricus]

You're jealous a bit, I guess. But it's normal if you really love her.

[PeterLegg91]

That she and her friends are looking at other guys? 🤔

[Hollyjjm]

My guess is you’re insecure? More info about what she’s doing with her friends would be helpful.

[Anonymous]

That’s weird you should be happy your partner is going out and socializing…

[avery58]

Well you surely know the answer to that

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Because she's not having fun with you.

[Anonymous]

the comments here be assuming the worst