What harmless but petty things do you do to your S. O. when you’re pissed at them?

[Anonymous]

I usually remove the heart emoji next to his name on my contact as a way to “punish” him even though it doesn’t actually affect him lol. I also stopped wearing the necklace he gave me and basically store away his gifts away in my drawer so that I don’t get reminded of him when I see them. I put everything back once I’ve cooled off tho.

[dustybiker2]

Appreciate them. These people are the last ones you see at the end of the day and the first in the beginning of the next. They choose to stick with us even though we are two different people from different backgrounds trying to coexist. You rub each other the wrong way some times. If it didn't happen it would be boring. But respecting each other through those times even when you are pissed builds a bond as strong as steel.


That said I have worn neon green pants to make a point. I'm not perfect nor above embarrassing myself to smooth junk over and bring that corner mouth smile back.

[Asker]

Yeah of course, I still appreciate their existence and have a lot of love for them which is why I only resort to doing harmless “punishments” when I’m mad at them. We usually laugh it off at the end of the day anyway lol

Neon green pants is definitely a statement that can’t be missed! I guess when you truly love someone you just can’t stay mad at them for long, and even when you’re mad at them you’re still subconsciously trying to find ways to make them smile

[dustybiker2]

That's love.

[GeminiDiamond]

I don't punish him. I do go binge shopping or go do activities that don't include him until I calm down. I might not answer his call or text if I'm busy cooling off. After I've calm down, we talk and makeup, or just carry on like we always do.

[Asker]

Yeah I don’t actually punish my man as well that would be childish, of course communication is still key and talking things out to make up in the end is all that matters

[RedInnocent69]

I’ll leave things around to remind her that I’m pissed off, or say things that would be considered passive-aggressive, but really only mean something to her. Like, I might leave her address book open to the name of a past relationship I don’t like, or say something that I know will trigger her by reminding her of one of mine.

[Asker]

Oh well I would consider those to be a bit more than harmless tbh lol

[RedInnocent69]

Fair, but it often makes her feel guilty or jealous and put out to make it up, so there’s that, lol.

[Asker]

Well I guess that works in your case then so that’s good lol

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. It’s a bit cruel, but it works. Not that she needs much persuasion to put out. 😂

[BetaBucks]

Just create distance. Usually my wife and I fight because she's in a bad mood, or PMSing, so I just leave the house more and start conversations with her less. She just needs more space than she realizes.

[Asker]

That’s actually great that you gave her the space she needs to cool down without her even realizing that she needs it! As someone who also goes through PMS every month I can relate, sometimes I don’t realize that all I need is some space and me time

[Minky17]

I don't have a need to be petty. He gets petty with me by trying to not have sex with me but it never works. If I'm upset - I just seduce him to do what I want.

[Asker]

That’s a must have skill tbh, being able to seduce your partner no matter how mad he is at you

[Minky17]

It's easy if you know what he likes or y'all have things in common

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve learned to be more confident in myself and have started teasing and seducing him a lot, works wonders!

[Yannae]

My favorite is not sharing any food with her after I went to ask if she needed anything and she answered "No" several times and then magically changes her mind the moment I have my food. Her face is priceless, but she knows she screwed up.

[Asker]

Lol that’s a good one

[Yannae]

But overall our communication is crystal clear. It's just some of those little things that mood changes like the weather. Smooth sailing.

[Asker]

Same here with me and my man. I think it’s great to allow some minimal childish behavior here and there as long as we don’t go overboard with it

[hahahmm]

I'm a traditional guy. I always remember not to act like a woman since I am... a man.

[Asker]

Yes men should act like men and let women be women lol

[CrabCakes11]

I don’t do petty things. I’m in a healthy relationship and I’m not a child.

[Asker]

That’s the goal!

[LazerBean]

I don't do anything like that, because I'm not a child.

[Asker]

Sadly a bunch of people are still acting really childish even as adults…

[libsaretards]

I do not play stupid games like this. If I'm upset at my S. O., we discuss it and come to an agreement together. That's it.

[Asker]

Of course, that’s what I do as well but I guess since my boyfriend is also my best friend we sometimes act childish towards each other as a joke. But we’re very open about our childish behavior and laugh it off at the end of the day

[slatyb]

I don't and would never. I wouldn't stay with someone who behaved that way.

[Asker]

Even if it’s harmless? Like there’s no harm in deleting the heart next to your S. O.’s name in your phone when you’re mad at them 😆

[slatyb]

In their phone? How would I ever know?

[Asker]

Exactly, that’s my whole point. It’s basically for your own satisfaction without actually causing your partner any harm.

[slatyb]

I see. In that case my answer is none. My partner always does her best for me.

[Asker]

That’s awesome then

[Billlewis]

My ex used to talk on the phone for hours while she completely ignored me... lol

[Asker]

Pretending like you don’t exist? Lol

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, and it certainly seemed appropriate at the time;)

[RavVid]

Not be interested in anything they have to say.

[Asker]

Basically ghosting them irl lol

[RavVid]

Exactly. Or a good old fashioned cold shoulder.

[Anonymous]

How bout choosing not to be childish, manipulative, and petty as well as passive aggressive, and actually communicate with him like a big girl. Your behavior has massive red flags all over. It's pathetic.

[Asker]

I do communicate with him openly, we always talk it out calmly and figure out a solution together. I even told him that I do these things and he said he does the same when he’s mad at me too so it’s harmless and I take no personal offense to this. He even blocks me on social media when he’s pissed at me sometimes but he will let me know in advance so it’s all good. I guess this is just our way of letting out our frustration towards each other, bcs sometimes after talking it out we still need to vent out our frustrations through small and harmless things like I mentioned. No harm done 😌

[Anonymous]

silent treatment. not the best way, but it's a coping mechanism i can't break unfortunately. also bring up things he did in the past.

[Asker]

Yeah a lot of people seem to resort to silent treatment most of the time when they’re pissed so I can understand even though I’m aware that it can get toxic. My boyfriend used to give me silent treatments but I never cared or reacted to it so eventually he stopped doing it lol

[Radiate143]

The entire point of being petty is to cause harm.

[Asker]

That’s true, but I would never do anything to purposefully cause harm to my man / relationship so I’m mostly just referring to harmless childish behavior I guess

[Radiate143]

It isn’t harmful is the point I am trying to drive home. It kilss a relationship by 1000 smll cuts.

[Radiate143]

Is harmful

[Asker]

Yes I agree, when it’s passive aggressive-ness then it’s for sure harmful and could kill a relationship

[Grond21]

Petty and harmless can never be said of the same thing

[Asker]

You’re right. I guess I just should’ve worded it differently 😬 English is not my native language so I wasn’t sure of how I can best convey my thoughts into words

[Grond21]

Actually, based on the actions you were taking, it sounds like you worded it well. The problem I am seeing is it is small acts of intentional resentment. And resentment is always cancerous to any relationship

[Asker]

Ah you’re right, what I’m describing is basically temporary acts of resentment but I can see that if I keep on enabling this then it might grow to an even bigger and more permanent resentment even though it just seems “harmless” for now. Thanks for opening up my eyes

[Grond21]

It's very gratifying to see that you see this. You are more than welcome, I'm glad I was able to help

[Asker]

This is pretty life changing advice tbh so I can’t thank you enough! Completely changed my perspective on how I’ve been acting towards my man.

[Grond21]

That makes me extremely happy! Wow, you have made my day

[Jay0102]

I dont really do petty things because all it does is make me feel bad. I habe enough people making me feel bad and putting me down I dont need to add myself to the list

[Asker]

That’s great that you’re very self aware! Keep doing you ✨

[Anonymous]

When she goes in for a hug I pull away and put my fist out for a fist bump and say "pound that 💩 bro".😆

[Asker]

This is exactly what I’m talking about! Harmless but you get the point across still lol

[msc545]

I might not call or text them for a week or two...

[Asker]

Oh and how do they usually take it?

[msc545]

I don't know. I usually don't stick around to ask them.

[DreamLife7]

You're too old. Damn near 30 with no kids and husband yet talking about emojis. Weird

[Asker]

Yeah it’s just a simple and childish but harmless “punishment” for my own enjoyment tbh

[DreamLife7]

Again you're old as hell with a mind of a toddler ur weird

[Anonymous]

Removing the heart emoji?

Damn, woman, grow up some. Using emojis at your age?

[Asker]

Yep exactly, I’m referring to these kinds of trivial/harmless but childish behavior to “punish” your S. O. It’s more so for my own fulfillment since I don’t want to actually punish my man for pissing me off, I still communicate to him what’s bothering me and offer him a solution like a proper adult lol

[meepmeeperton]

I fart on her while she’s sleeping.

[Asker]

Lol that’s foul 😆

[meepmeeperton]

To be fair she’s probably done the same to me LOL.

[Asker]

I’m proud to say that I have also done this to my man lol. Foul but effective!

[Princesspd]

I don’t allow him to touch me.

[Asker]

Do you usually withhold affection?

[Princesspd]

Sometime