Women are looking for Mr right. Men are looking for Mrs right now. How accurate today is this old time phrase?

[Vegasrunner]

[Anonymous]

I dunno. Nowadays I am seeing more of the reverse in our “modern” culture.

I am good friends with a young guy who is a recovering sex addict (porn, multiple women, etc.). He went on a year hiatus from dating women and joined an anon group.

Now he’s dating a new girl but days he has refrained from having sex right away. He’s openly communicated to her he’s taking a different approach.

He said she’s still seeing other guys right now including another guy on the regular. He also says she’s been very receptive to his approach so far and they have been dating only for a month.

While his approach sounds noble and he’s in a unique situation I’m worried for him. This other girl is getting to “piece meal” a perfect man right now. She can get her emotional/attention needs met from him and her sexual/physical needs met from someone else. Best of both worlds for her.

It’s also to easy to label him a “beta male” (he isn’t) who will get long term friendzoned and she will never fully commit to him. If develops strong feelings for her this will end in disaster. Major blow to ego and likely make him relapse.

I told him that if she makes a move to not turn her down. Also said if he doesn’t make a move by month 2 of dating this could turn out bad for him.

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous You're instincts are correct and I think u are giving him sound advice. Sometimes though u just have to let people learn the hard way.

[Opinion Owner]

He’s in a unique situation. He’s trying to clean up his sexual deviation and have a better relationship life. Impressive for his age. Very wise for his age.

But if he ends up developing feelings for this girl and she decides to friendzone him he’s going to be very resentful. However he’s had very open communication with her which is impressive. If she’s a decent woman then he’s a very rare find. Depends if she respects that or not. And right now he’s looking at her with rose colored glasses.

Told him to take her up on it if she makes a move.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Women clearly aren't looking for a fictional Mr right 🤣 if they were why do women prefer getting with shitty men and then blame all men for that one man being shitty? It's like women are doing this too themselves and want an excuse to hate men. 🤷🏻‍♂️ as for men, a lot are preferring to stay single because of the way women are today. Those men who are still seeking relationships probably are looking for something in the moment. Those would be the shitty men who women keep blaming all men for. Seems to be a vicious cycle where the only ones who are winning are those who aren't playing the game

[Vegasrunner]

@criticalcatdad123 you bring up some interesting points, however some seemed to be based on inaccurate info and a poor understanding of women.
1. The men that you are claiming are "shitty" aren't shitty in the woman's opinion while they're together. Don't believe submit a post on GAG asking what women think of their current boyfriend and then another saying what they think of their Ex. You need to understand that woman are emotionally unstable and what they say is only a reflection of how they are feeling at that time.
Men have alwaysed preferred to stay single, your generation has just been bullied into believing that men should want to be w/ one woman. Don't believe me name any famous successful man that has been w/ just one woman now compsre that w/ how many have been w/ tons of women.
You would have to decide on what winning is. I have sex about 3-5 times per week w/ a rotation of women. Trading that for being a single guy w/ catalog does not sound like the type of win I'm interested in.

[DishLady]

Actually, you nailed it. There’s a video called “the Economics of Sex” that claims thing are the way they are bc of the invention of contraceptives, which allows for “guilt free sex”, but most people know that guilt free sex is an urban legend. (in my opinion, better to wait for the right person than to go for the right now person.)

[WhitneySnow]

There has always been guilt free sex. Just stick to oral. No risk of getting pregnant and minimal risk of disease if you and your partner are faithful to each other. Though I suppose one or both of you might still struggle with feelings of guilt. (I know I did in the beginning.)

[DishLady]

Um…. Ok then. Thanks for sharing that.

[WhitneySnow]

Sorry for intruding. I was just trying to point out that it was always possible to have sex with someone without the risk of getting pregnant even before contraception.

[Vegasrunner]

@DishLady Men have guilt free sex all the time, I certainly due. The guilt is usually felt by woman who tend to bond more w/ their sexual partners.

[DishLady]

@Vegasrunner, I think the term “guilt” (vs perhaps “consequence”) is throwing some details awry here, but yes I agree with you. The stakes just aren’t as high for men as they are for women.

@WhitneySnow, Guilt doesn’t just refer to PIV sex. At any point in time any sexual exchange can possibly lead to feelings of guilt in one or both/all parties involved.

[WhitneySnow]

@DishLady I agree. I’m just saying, there are ways to have sex that are just as fun and don’t lead to a risk of pregnancy. And there always have been throughout history.

[Vegasrunner]

@DishLady Agreed. Much higher stakes for women.

[Pillubi]

To be honest with you, this whole concept of Mr and Mrs right doesn't exist. Relationships are all about adjustments, compromise and sacrifice, understanding regardless of how similar the partner is.

[Anonymous]

If anything, it seems flip flopped. A lot of girls are just dating easy dudes to manipulate and get over on. If a dude is too “in” his masculine frame, she’s either afraid or insecure, combative, and ultimately ruins her chances with a strong male figure.

Like if a guy has himself together and has high standards and sets clear and reasonable boundaries and she just wants to go out and get drunk and get hit on by a bunch of horny dudes, it’s clearly not gonna work, and that’s on her, not him. A lot of these modern women live for the attention. They don’t want to buckle down and commit to a man when they have the abundant options and the “grass is greener” mentality.

“There’s always a better one” they think, until the biological clock starts ticking and their best years start to fade behind them.

[ProbablyClueless]

I think I'm seeing more the opposite, these days. Men are generally interested in settling down with a partner, while the women seem like they can't be bothered.

[MzAsh]

Boys are looking for Mrs Right Now.
Men are looking for Mrs Right.

[Vegasrunner]

@MzAsh That's simply a coping mechanism women use to help them ignore reality

[MzAsh]

What you’re saying is simply a coping mechanism boys use when they don’t qualify for anyone who might be Mrs Right.

[MicahRaine]

@MzAsh fax

[Vegasrunner]

@MzAsh If that waa true the statement wouldn't be such a common phrase. "Mrs right" isn't a concept men that are successful w/ women use.

[LaurenM1997]

It’s not accurate at all there is no mr right Mrs right

[Vegasrunner]

@LaurenM1997 agreed. Why do women think there's a Mr right?

[LaurenM1997]

Cause they aren’t in the right mind

[Vegasrunner]

@LaurenM1997 fair enough

[itsclearlynicholas]

Few women are hardly in their right mind at all lol 🧠 ♀️ and I don't swing for the men ♂️
So that leaves me to enjoy my singleness 😋✊🏻🫡

[JosyJosy]

Still very accurate, but it's tricky to find Right.

[GoGetitGio]

Not very. I’m not looking at all I’m focused on other stuff. My mom is looking to find a hot young guy to bang lol

[Vegasrunner]

@GoGetitGio How old is your mom?

[GoGetitGio]

She’s 40 why

[Vegasrunner]

@GoGetitGio Just wanted to validate a theory I have about females

[GoGetitGio]

Interesting did I help you validate it?

[Vegasrunner]

@GoGetitGio Has your mom been successful in banging any "hot young guys"?

[GoGetitGio]

lol yea she got nailed today by a 26 year old multiple times. he bangs her almost every weekend. Also last week she had sex with some guy she took home from the gym. She went to the gym in a bra top and like shirts her butt cheeks hangs out of then came home with this jacked guy. They hopped in the shower and 20 minutes later you could hear them banging. Then he stayed the next day and banged some more. But he was more close to my mom’s age I think. I came home this ripped guy is shirtless on my couch and my mom is her bra and thong straddle on this guy making out with him that’s what I walk home too after my soccer game lol like they’re not even trying to hide it

[Vegasrunner]

@GoGetitGio TY that helped.

[GoGetitGio]

Good lol how do?

[GoGetitGio]

So*?

[Shy_Steve]

It's a very old saying, Women and Men are not like that these days.

Back then a lot Girls were still Virgins in their 20s and 30s and i think us Guys were more Confident with Women.

[Starrrboy]

Not anymore.. it's about even nowadays, women are also looking for " Mr right for the next six months " lol..

[BeyondBirthday]

Depends on the person. I want to have some kids soon and not be paying child support. So rn I'm dating to find a future mother to my kids.

[Anonymous]

No. Most women are only looking for Mr. Right now.

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous If that was true it wouldn't be such a big deal to request a woman's body count.

[Opinion Owner]

You'd think. But women don't like being judged any more than men. Think about it. Have you ever asked a woman a question where she gave you a straight answer?

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner I have not, however that doesn't have any correlation to the question.

[Opinion Owner]

It's hard to find Mr. Right if you constantly lie to him. Even if you meetvhim he's not going to choose you. Why would he.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Even if that were true how would it change the fact that they are still looking

[dolemite58]

More like women are looking to be ms always right 😂

[red324]

Some are some aren't

[funwithmee]

cause most things are sooo wrong 😄