I lost someone I loved very much. How do I deal with this pain and grief?

[Anonymous]

How do I deal with this pain, he is dead, he won't come back, no, I feel like I'm going to lose my mind

[DishLady]

This is something that's harder to deal with than most of the topics on here. It's not a break up and it's not a divorce, it's a personal tragedy and a gap that, tbh, will never fully heal in your heart; the scar of that loss tends to stay with a person. Also, best to speak with a professional about this and not just read what a bunch of amateurs are posting here on G@G, ok?

Why's the pain harder to cope with? Because you can't argue with this person anymore... can't be upset with them and bicker till the fight cools down and it's time for makeup sex or cuddles... It's something that lingers in your heart and mind even when your hands are busy with projects.

Most times professionals will tell you to just keep busy, and it's true that the more you get out there and tackle projects, the less you'll think about the person, but it's also important to allow yourself proper time to grieve.

In my culture they allow a 40-day mourning period. You can stay home in solitude doing whatever it is that you need to do to get over the slump of your loss. After the 40 days you can go out into society, but at a slower pace, easing your way back in and still really focusing on your own healing. Within the year you should be back to a relatively normal social and personal routine again. If you find that you're falling off track with this, again, call a professional to seek proper assistance and support.

It's not an easy road to travel. You're in my prayers, young anon.

[jennifer_bloom]

Go to a meditation centre or a house of prayer and listen to chants or hymns or talk to a pastor or rabbi or priest. Or go on a trip to the beach or adopt a pet for one week through a temporary pet adoption agency. I recommend sitting inside your bedroom and playing classical music for 8 hours a day while smelling vanilla candles or lavender ones. Maybe hiring a massage therapist after 4 days of mourning. Make sure the massage happens after a meal at a restaurant. Eat something healthy like a lobster or a clam or a piece of sushi or steak if you are allergic to sea food. Make sure the steak is healthy and not the fatty cut. I think sea food is healthier so would choose the sushi if you can eat it.

[Asker]

I will try , thanks, I really feel like I am dying 🥲

[EmisElite]

I'm deeply saddened by your loss. Coping with the immense pain of losing someone special is never easy, but just know that I'm here for you. Make sure to take care of yourself during this challenging time. Lean on your loved ones for strength and don't hesitate to seek professional help if necessary. Allow yourself to grieve and give yourself the time you need to heal. Remember, you are not alone in this.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Go through the 5 stages of grief and then move on. The quicker you make it to acceptance the better.

I went through this when McDonald's stopped making french fry's in beef tallow. The people that died since then have been easier to manage since it's kind of like not having my frys the way they should be.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

We're so sorry to hear that.. 🥺 To heal is to embrace the pain, until you can't feel it anymore. Please don't isolate yourself during the process, talking with your family or friends will help you. Take care of yourself too. Sending you hugs.. May his soul rest in peace. 🕊🙏

[Asker]

I can't sleep at night and thank you🥲💕

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

@Asker, you are welcome. Take care always. 💗💗💗

[Fireguy17]

It's hard.
There are different stages of grieving that you can look up.
Being with family and friends and help you get through it, but it takes time.

[Asker]

I didn't cry at all in the first week, I didn't cry at the funeral, everything was fine, it was like I never lost him, but now I cry all the time.

[Fireguy17]

Look up the stages of grieving on the internet.
It won't make it go away, but it might help you understand that you aren't the only on that has gone through this.
There are also grief councilors that might also be able to help.

[strateguy632]

if emotions are strong you might need medication ask a psycologist

[Asker]

Yes, it is strong, I am in a lot of pain and I can't sleep at night, I couldn't even accept that he is dead, I immediately start crying during the day, it is like they are stabbing my heart with a knife, I miss him.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You gotta let the emotions run, there's really no avoiding it

[Asker]

It's like they're stabbing my heart with a knife, it hurts, I'm having trouble moving on with my life.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It will be like that for awhile until one day you realize you can actually focus on things, their death will always be with you tho and you'll always remember and think of the unfortunate situation but it will eventually stop immobilizing you with pain.

[Asker]

I hope it happens as you say, I feel like I'm dying right now

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea your heart is broken, it's a natural reaction to death of loved ones

[KrakenAttackin]

Most women grieve for about an hour than move on to the next man. So the answer is to find another man. Easy peasy.

[Asker]

He was not a lover, he was a relative, not relationship

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... Even easier.

[Asker]

How?

[Theodoricus]

May god rest his soul in peace. I know it's not easy to say, but you should stay strong.

[Asker]

🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[Booklover_90]

I’m sorry for your loss. Consider therapy. Either way, take care. 🙏🏽❤️

[Ivan1764]

Yes we all lost people we loved but it's not the end of the world, you have to be strong.

[Asker]

🥲Ivan, it's my first time to lose someone I love

[Anonymous]

At least you were lucky enough to know him and have him in your life for as long as you did. Most people, myself included, aren't that lucky.

[LaurenM1997]

I think counselling might help you

[babygirlsrt]

If you can eat try grapes