How do I react to him admitting to almost cheating on me?

Don't ever allow any man2make a fool out of you! This is serious&I can understand your issue with working with these people. Your childs father&the girl he considered cheating with. He's sleeping where he poops, not so smart. I'm sure he didn't consider his child&you when he was getting those pics.

I don't believe the whole 'wanting2escape so he considered cheating as an escape' excuse. If it smells like shit, then it's probably bull-shit! The only reason he's copping2 'thinking about it' is because he got busted. He's probably so grateful that you didn't catch him in the act that he just said he 'thought about it.'

I remember when my co-worker told me that this girl kept calling my fiance. I just asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me. He told me that the girl was stalking him, which is what my co-worker told me. We all worked together, but I didn't know her at all until my co-worker pointed her out to me. Sometime w/in the next few weeks I was shopping at some store after taking a wrong turn&saw her. I approached the girl who was with her child&asked her if she worked for (alias) ABC Company&verified her name. She told me yes. I asked her if she knew (John Doe LOL) him. I stepped up real close to her&told her2cover her daughters ears. She did. I whispered that if I caught her hanging around him again, that I would cut her up&mail the pieces to her family.

Later that evening, my fiance&I had a conversation while I was slicing the fat off of our pork-chops while preparing dinner. I simply explained2him that if I ever found out that he cheated on me that I wouldn't know what2do. (Slice) Yes, I behaved like a calm quiet psycho woman while I made my threats, but I got my point accross2both of them. She quit the next day& if he ever did cheat on me he sure didn't leave any evidence LOL.

Now I know this may sound harsh,childish&dangerous, but as I said "We all had an understanding" that I was out of my f'n mind. Sometimes that's just enough2 put things in perspective. I'm not advocating threats of violence. If he's gonna cheat, he's gonna cheat, take chances&do dumb shit like saving pictures in his phone, sending text messages&having new female friends on myspace/facebook.

It really bothers me that your childs father was so careless and disrespectful as to even think about dealing with someone where you both work. You should ask him what stopped him from cheating while you slice some steak&then you should explain to him that you have responsibilities together as a family. You are both just starting your lives&you should learn who he really is before you proceed further. If he's a cheater, get rid of him you are young enough2start over. Here are some things you should get started now for your child.

1. Tell your father what happened so he can talk to him about being a man, a father and a husband.

2. File for child support. You never know since he's so immature when or if he's going to be there4you.

3. Go to college

Ok this will spund funny, but my huband went through the same thing! we had been together for 3 years when we had our first son together and he was using myspace to meet girls and their was one girl in particular at WORK who he was talking to an awful lot. and it turned out that yes he came close to cheating but never did, but that didn't mean that it didn't hurt that he thought about it, the reason he may be acting like this is because if this is your first baby together then of course your arguing, you both have different parenting styles and that sort of thing, it;ll pass, as for the women, pull her aside at work and tell her that you don't appreciate the fact that she's doing what she is doing maybe their is more to the story, then all he's telling you, maybe she was pursuing her or visa versa, but don't get all possessive on him, let him do whatever, if he sees you pushing, he'll go further as rebelling. Whatever happens, don't expect the fighting to stop he really hurt you especially after having a baby, it's ridiculous, give him a chance and find out from the other girl what happened if he really wants to work it out good, if he messes up again screw him he isn't worth it I bet if he does leave for this girl he'll regret it then come home. just be patient, it takes a while, it still hurts me what my husband did to this day, and now that I'm pregnant again I worry but if he screws up hell, child support and a man worth while.

Oh shit, that is hard! I wouldn't run so fast though because at least he's finally being honest and showing some emotion which means he's not ready to end it and may try very hard to make it work. If you stay with him and he pulls this crap again (or similar) down the road, then you know he'll never stop, you'll never be able to trust him and you should probably leave him. But, now that there is a baby involved, you've got to do the right thing for your child. And a child deserves a chance at a family, if at all possible.