Trusting your girlfriends "guy friends"

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I love my girlfriend and trust her completely.  It's the guy friends I don't trust.  I have had every girlfriend I've been with cheat with me so far.  I have let my girlfriend know that I have trust issues, she has been very accommodating being very open and honest.  I know that she has guy friends, its only natural.  I also have girl friends, also natural.  I have met most of her guy friends and trust them because she has known them for years. What makes me mad is that she won't hear from a guy for months or a year and then he pops his head in the picture.  That or it's a guy from nowhere on the radar that just shows up saying he got her number from a friend. She says that he is an old friend or just a nice guy from one of her classes and isn't interested in her that way.  As a guy I know why this cat is sticking his head back in the picture or showing up in the first place.  More often than not I turn out to be right and she tells the guy to leave her alone she is in a relationship with me and very committed.  The problem is that it never seems to stop.  There is always some guy who somehow gets her number threw a friend and starts calling her.  Is she simply naive to all these guys intentions or does she simply like the attention.  I know she loves me, hasn't cheated on me and never would.  She doesn't understand that it's not her I don't trust it's these guys I never met.  She is a very pretty girl.  Have any other guys dealt with this, if so how?  I don't trust anyone I don't meet how can she except me to also.  I am starting to ramble now I just need some advice.  Thanks in advance!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, I'm a girl and I used to be just as naive. I was so pretty other girls were jealous and hated me. So I didn't have any friends... just 100s of jerks, who claimed to be my friends, chasing after me. Well, you can guess what happened to me after years of no one to turn to and lots of pain.

A girl would be friends with a guy "just to be friends." She doesn't understand that it doesn't work the other way around and that guys don't think like girls.

Well, as long as she is with you, she'll learn you are right. Show her proof and evidence. Explain from a logical standpoint. As time passes she will learn. You just have to teach her to look for what signs and why. You need to tell her since she's pretty, she has to be even MORE on the look out for herself. Good luck.

Bunnielove · Accepted Answer

Also I was wondering.I know a girl like this. She leads these guys on and becomes good "friends" with them. Though she wouldn't cheat she gives them the idea that she is available or willing to do more. When her boyfriend finds out about these guys she would explain it to him that they are good friends but when it comes to the point where they show up at the door or calling when her boyfriend was around she would just split it off with them. I am not saying your girl is doing that. But the comment you made to raz sounds a lot like her.

Bunnielove · Accepted Answer

Well if this happaned once or twice then I would say she is naive, but since I am a girl and married (would never cheat) I can tell you she likes the attention. That simple really. But also make sure you arn't acting overly jealous because that will just annoy her and potentially drive her away.

This is so similar to my life it isn't even funny =D

brandibelle · Accepted Answer

U can never trust her guy friends... Each & every one of them would hook up with her if they could.

U have to trust her! She would have hooked up with them by now if there was a chance... Don't stress over this! Trust me!

raz0rblastz · Accepted Answer

ok.i totally understand this.full trust in ur girl but you don't trust those assholes who keeps harassing her.and she isn't doing (what you think) enough to stop them from calling.

simple solution.if you trust her then you wouldn't bother much.cuz if you trust that she loves you then she'll never waver.:)

Anonymous · Answer

So what you are saying is you don't trust your girlfriend but you don't want to say it so bluntly so you'll say you don't trust her friends.

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