because to us its like secretly saying we are not as hot as them or not as attractive. If girls checked out other guys while our boyfriends were or were not with us and they saw or found out... it would hurt your pride and you would be pissed. Its the same for us to us its like your saying they're better than you or I wish you looked like that.
It depends on the situation: If you can't remember what the girl was saying while you were checking out the other girl, then yeah, she would get pissed. As long as you don't say, "Wow, she's so hot," then it really shouldn't be that big of a deal.
Many women are insecure, we compete in a society that is surrounded by beautiful women that don't look like everyday women, we also get cheated on a lot. some women are more jealous (insecure) than others, but its the way it is done that can be completely damaging, lots of guys look at these women like a dog that is panting, yet you guys don't look at your girlfriend that way, something to think about.
Women are generally insecure and we overanalyze things. When you look at another girl we will think bad things about ourselves. It makes women feel inadequate.
OK so girls definitly check out guys too right? But my favorite saying is men are dumb and women are evil. Bottom line we all look men are just dumb enough to be obvious about it or actually think it is appropriate.
I wouldn't get pissed off if my guy does it, I would probably laugh, but I know I would never look at another guy and I hope he is too captured by me to do so as well.
long story short.::: basically because if its the guy you like, it makes the girl feel pretty stupid. I feel weird for saying that but its true. Girls compare themselves to the other girl and we get jealous. Then we feel ugly and even more insecure with ourselves and it brings out self-esteem down
SOO many people take such a demeaning standpoint towards women! The person commenting didn't say the girl was a girlfriend. Everybody keeps assuming this. also, maybe it's NOT a girls self-esteem thing. but just that a guy is preoccupied and has his attention on somebody ELSE irritates her and makes holding a conversation harder when the guy is distracted! both people don't know the girl he is checking out except by looks ALONE, so It's hard to compete with an IMAGE. and that's all it is since both people don't know the person the guy is staring at. a fantasy. Maybe not everybody likes to compete with something they don't know. if this even is a competition. Know your enemy?
Well, you could say jealousy. But on a deeper level, it excludes the girl you are with. If you turned it into a game and said "who do you think is better looking, that girl or that girl?" And did the same with two guys, I think 50% of girls would be game. But when you are checking somebody else out it makes them wonder if that girl is better looking.and I know personally my need for honesty outrates my need for approval. by like one percent. I need 51 percent honesty 49 percept approval. So while I'd be relieved you told me the truth (yeah, she's slightly hotter, for example, if that was the truth in your eyes) I would never forget you said that, and have a hard time forgetting it. A catch 22. If you just joked your way out of the answer, though, that would be good. It also depends how well this "girl" and you know each other. Are you dating? Are you married? Are you just FRIENDS? Are you friends but the girl has a crush on you? ETC. An overly simplistic question.
snaiilz said it perfectly. It's genuine female insecurity.and overthinking. We automatically think we're inadequate compared to other girls when you check them out, and get a little upset. It's sort of like a sport between two girls. Whichever one gets the most attention from the guy is the winner (aka the prettiest).
It sounds ridiculous, but that's pretty much it. Just try not to check out other girls when you're out with someone, and if you're caught looking, come up with something like, "I was just thinking how much prettier your hair is than hers." idk.maybe you could come up with something better lol
when guys check out other girls, we automatically compare ourselves to them. cause in that moment, its like we're competing. its like a, "OMGZ she's prettier than me, wtfomgshit" sort of thing.
haha it sounds really dumb when I type this, but I feel like complete shit when guys I like check out other girls. makes me feel inadequate, ugly even. I know I shouldnt feel bad though, I check people out all the time, we all do. its just something people do, and there's no reason to make assumptions out of it.
pretty much, it sends the wrong message to the girl you're with. try to refrain from staring ast other girls when you're with a sopecific girl. you have plenty of time otherwise to do so. :P
Your with a girl, yet your there looking at other girls. She'll feel like you don't like her and are only with her till you find someone you like better.
Well, I feel this way with real girls. If my guy tells me he likes so or so celeb wise I don't care, not as if he'd have a chance with her. But when the girl he's talking about is standing a few feet away from me, it's very real, upsetting and if a girls been cheated on in the past you lose her trust as the thought you want to be with them will enter her mind.
just think about that question for a minute. would you like it if your girlfriend started checking out other guys when she was with you? or if other guys checked her out? mainly its because of girls self-confidence issues. I blame the idea of the perfect woman in magazines to be really thin, perfect skin and hair. long story short I guess is guys, DONT DO IT! well don't let us know about it anyway :)
From what I know us girls when with a guy don't check out other guys if we do we don't make it known expecially if with a guy. Guys do my husband and I have been married 3 years and he still does and even makes comments to me about other women some times it can be bothersome other times no. Its a man thing to continually check out other girls but not an excuse to do it. So my suggestion don't do it. It makes the girl your with feel insignificant, or not good enough for you if you are checking out other girls, maybe wondering you are gunna leave her for another. Its that plain and simple but a lot of guys don't understand that girls are very self concious of them selfs. So again Don't do it. I know from experience.
hey.girls who are secure and confident within them selfs will generlly b ok with it so I suggest if the girls are not ok with it its because they feel threatened and insecure.it is also a bit disrespectful to check out other girls when ur with some1 .keep it 2 when ur with the lads.
