My girlfriend and I are going to colleges almost 400 miles away. We both want to stay together - but not feel like we're missing out. She introduced the idea of somewhat of an open relationship. I was wary at first, but I'm not sure. I don't see the difference between that and breaking up and getting back together later.
I'm not a jealous of a person, but I just am having trouble understanding why she would want to stay with me but at the same time date other guys. She isn't in it for the physical aspect, it's more of a seeing what else is out there. I can understand that, but I don't want to be some kind of back-up. If one us find someone we would rather be with, so be it, we weren't meant for each other. Another question is how far do either one of us go with a new person (we haven't had sex yet).
We're both kind of confused. Neither of us want to break-up with the other, but at the same time, not wonder what else is out there. Could an open relationship work? I know the exact terms would depend on how we feel, but how can we possibly make this work?
My high school sweetheart and I broke up a year after he went off to college with the same reason. We didn't want to break up, but we decided it was best for us. Long distance was pretty hard to keep. We kept in touch and stayed as friends for 3 years. He ended up moving to New York (we are both from Texas). One summer, he came to visit me down in Texas, things flamed up again and I ended up moving to New York with him. We've been living together for almost a year now. We are very happy together. We don't regret breaking up. Those 3 years apart were good experiences for both of us. Now we both know that we are right for each other. I have to say, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. :)
Well, If she wants an open relationship it's a nicer way to tell you she wants to see what else is out there. 400 miles is far away so more than likely one of you will find something else. I'd just break up and if you two are bound to be together forever than after college or when the time is right you'll hook back up. You're suppose to have fun in college and having an open relationship could cause major drama and school is hectic enough. Even though you say you're not a jealous person you'll still be wondering who's she's met and who's she is getting close to.
To be honest with you I think open relationships are the beginning of an end. I had the same problem a couple of years ago were me and my girlfriend even had a long distance relationship. In 95% of the cases it doesn't work out well. I would end it and stay friends Hope I could help
look dude my girlfriend became a flight attendance and she promised to stay loyal and faithful ,she was 20 at the time,but who believes that,she went to see the rest of the world and went foreign as far as china for the first time,we had 2 years of long distance when we met,i felt like strangers, i didn't work anyways.
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I don't use any lines.. leave those to the cheese balls! I usually start by making a joke, complimenting a part of their outfit, or ask if they are having a good time or like the place.. if they are interested in conversation I will have no trouble making her laugh!
How do they typically respond?
If they don't respond positively or have that look on their face like there is somewhere else they need to be, I drop conversation and move on... otherwise my smile, laugh, and constant eye contact usually causes them to be interested in getting my number or hanging out for a while longer!
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