Soo my boyfriend is just graduating from highschool, and well lets just say that the graduation is tonight and I'm not there. = ( NOW where the whole trust issue comes in to play. Each student was given 5 tickets, and welll he told me he only got 2. I know for a fact that they got 5 tickets cause I called the school. I really wanted to go and he didn't know anything about it so I had to find out on my own. We ended up fighting about it and what not so yesterday he didn't talk to me at all! I tried so hard not to text him and eventually I did, I said basically that I hope I'll be coming to your graduation and that's about it. Well last night he texted me and said he only has 2 tickets end of discussion. So of course I wanted to know what he did with the other 3 tickets, and it just so happened each time I asked he changed the subject basically cause we were fighting about it. So he wouldn't tell me what happen to the tickets and why he didn't want me to go. He had been acting funny about the whole thing since we started to talk about it. (im really thinking its cause of his ex girlfriend since theyre graduating together, he has only dated one other girl and that would be her, and I don't think he wants her to see that he is happy with me or something. Its been 3 years already! I do have my reasons for why I think its cause of her thou too so I'll get to that) but I told him don't worry I'll be at the graduation one way or another, which seemed to really piss him off and he said you come and you'll never see me again! (NOW COME ON, how freakin suspicious does that sound to you?! Cause it sounds like it to me) I trust him, but I don't know after this cause he is hiding something from me and ah its driving me nuts! There has been so much conflict with his ex girlfriend and I think that's really why he didn't want me to go and gave the tickets away. Really makes me mad and actually hurts alot. I just don't know how I'm going to be able to trust him cause I know he isn't telling me the truth. And you know someone is lying when they change the subject and just flip out on me was what he was doing. I ended up crying myself to sleep and a good majority of the day, just because I think she really has something to do with this. and cause of my boyfriend and I fighting its just causing me to be a mess and I just don't know what to do. I'm actually debating on just going to NJ to the beach just by myself so that I can just quit worrying about everything. Its so stressful anymore cause I don't know what to believe.
(Also reasoning why I have trouble trusting him is cause when we were on our "break" he had emailed his ex saying how he had missed her and what not, mean while he was begging me to go back with him. I found out about this email when I was trying to get a car, and I asked him about it and he LIED about it and said he didn't send it even thou it was in his sent mail under his email. WHY lie when the proof is right there?! He never came straight out yet.)
Honestly I wouldn't waste my time. If he really loved you you guys wouldn't fight like the way you do. I honestly think you should just move on with your life. If he loved you, he would take you to the grad, no matter what the consequences are. I'm sure you deserve a lot better then that. You're young still, you should go out and live a little. Go to NJ, but I think you should go with a friend. Someone that can take your mind off things, cause if you go by yourself then you'll have a lot of time to think about what you're missing, and your problems, and you don't want that. You want to clear your mind. Enjoy life!
Yeah you definitely have a point. I guess going by myself would make me think more about matters and probably wouldn't help any. Thanks = ) Do you think its cause he is hiding something from me as to why he wouldn't take me?... - 7 months ago
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Yeah I do think he is hiding something from you. Not that I would, but if I didn't want my girlfriend to be somewhere with me when she wants to then it would mean cause I was hiding something from her. I wouldn't really be able to see any other reason why not to bring her. - 7 months ago
Yeah I know, its been bothering me ALL day and especially now since the graduation is going on and I don't even know what's going on ah its killing me. I just didn't know if I was being to insecure but I definitely don't think that's what it is at all.. Ahh - 7 months ago
first of all, you pointed blankly to him with the facts-he was caught and not just once. I don't know if you are older, or go to a different school or what, but I would just move one and don't give him a second look. let him realize the idiot he has been and she your life going forward, happily without his immaturity. yes, it is hard because of the investment you put in the relationship, but you found out now then further on. if he wanted to stay involve, especially after the first time you caught him, he would tell you straight up. He knows he can't play sly, so go out with your friends, you never who else is out there.
Y ou need to talk to him straight out or if you really wanna know get someone to check whose there for him a freidns or a family memeber at the graduation. You know he didn't want you there though, so I guess he hiding something. Thars the reason people lie girlie.
I try and try talkin to him about it and he just gets an attitude INSTANTLY and we start fighting. I really feel like he is hiding something and will eventually find out what (I hope) I have eyes everywhere lol, I just don't know what I did to him for him to lie to me.. - 7 months ago
Knowing all this why have you made the choice to stay ? Love right ? Well for starter's sometimes love just isn't enough. It seems almost as if your TOLERATING your situation which only makes it worse, but you didn't need me to tell you that. So to answer your question '' can you trust him ?'' No , but then again what would make you think you could in the first place all the red flag's are there. I am in No WAY judging you truth is at one point I was in the very same spot you are ex - girlfriend and all. He's graduating he doesn't want you there ! That''s banana's to me . . Its not about what he's hiding its about him not thinking enough of you to want to include you in his life. And well GRADUATION is HUGE. Do I think he's hiding anything ? No , there's no need to hide what you already know of ( think about it ) don't blame his ex people only do what we allow. And to be honest it seems like he me be in between the fence with this one , meaning between the 2 of you he goes either way. He doesn't sound worth it , but you have to see it and BELIEVE it yourself. There's no need to argue of it he already knows how you feel unfortunately he doesn't care.
I think that's why everything got to me cause graduation to me is a big deal. I mean hell when I graduated last year mine turned out miserable because of him actually... And I just wanted to make up for it and hope that his would be better than mine. He knew I wanted to be there so bad cus I told him so many times. I guess I'm in the spot of where I want things to work so bad and where I know things won't work. I just have so much hope to where he has barely any = / N I agree I do just tolertate it. - 7 months ago
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For the most part its all about being a GIRL. We feel things they dare not say. NEVER put all your eggs in one basket. This guy doesn't deserve you . . - 7 months ago
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I get told that all the time.. And I ignore it = / I'm at the point where I want to be with him but then I dont. I think of so many things that are negative and it just makes me want to crawl in a corner and bawl, and then I think but I love him and I want things to work and I sit here and still try.. I would do anything in the world for him, but he won't do the same for me.. But I just can't leave even thou I do want to at times.. Its so hard.. - 7 months ago
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