He was fat?!

You seem to have upset a few people.
Don't worry, I'm not. I really understand where you are coming from.
I like this girl, SC, she was really hot.
I hung out with her, and you told me she used to be fat, and I didn't believe her.
She showed me pictures and all I could think was I'm so glad that's the past.

You have to know at a young age, some people really can't help it.
My neice right now has no choice. My sister keeps giving her all that milk.
She's so chunky, but I love it. I don't know how she'll be once she can do something about it & that's what's important.

Its when they get up in age & do nothing about it.
Fat is a word to show that a person is Sloopy & Unhealthy.
I'm a little more than sure he will not gain it back.
I promise you, if he had the motivation to lose it, I'm sure he will do more to keep it off.

He's in shape & he's works to keep it that way.
Do you do the same?
Stay open minded about who you fall for.
Who you choose to be with should not be based on their looks.
I know you want to a least be attracted to him though so I understand.

To get over this little stumbling block, you should find things in your past that wasn't perfect and compare. That should even the playing field.
Good Luck Pretty Girl. Don't let these people get you down.


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

If he gets fat again, remember how he looked when he was lifting weights?

That is a very very shallow question. Is your guy hot for you now? Then why the hell do you care if he was fat? The past is in the past, and there is no way you can change it. Seriously, if you are going to dump a guy because he starts getting some belly spring rolls, then don't even try to go for him. All you will do is get him hurt, and that is being a bitch.

I say love him for who he is NOW, not for who he was.

Keep in mind guys get distinguished girls well. you've seen grandma.If your going to be this conceded now, then karma is surely to bite you in the future. I use to be really over weight. And now I go to the gym 6 days a week . not to impress girls that think like you as I'm repulsed by your selflessness but for my own satisfaction. Hope for this guys sake he realizes his mistake and throws you to the curb. Grow up.

Hah, don't worry about that. As long as he's in good shape now it's fine. Once he pulls the twinkies back out, that's when you start to worry.

you should watch shalow hal (the movie) lol but to be honest he didn't like who he once was that's why he worked so hard to be who he is now. I'm sure after all that work he isn't going to let himself go again. Besides, its but how he treats you and makes you feel as a person. But in a way no one wants someone who doesn't take care of themself. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. Just put yourself in his shoes

Somehow I understand where you're coming from. I like this guy who for the most part was very good looking and healthy when I first met him. then he graduated from high school and started drinking and partying- well sad to say he looked almost unrecognizable- his face was puffy and fat and his eyes were all red, he didn't look healthy at all nor was he the least bit attractive. Thankfully he put his partying drinking lifestyle away and he plays football, he's really fit and healthy. Just to point out, it wasnt the fact that he was fat that turned me off, I've been attracted to big guys before, but he was clearly UNHEALTHY. I didn't like seeing him like that not because he disgusted me, but because I cared about his health (and I still liked him when he was fat) and if he gained weight in the future (not by drinking) I would still love him.

Here's a better question.What if he doesn't get fat again? The thing is, he has obviously worked hard to keep the weight off. You should appreciate who he is now.not get repulsed by who was then. What if YOU get fat or ugly down the road? Would you like it if someone judged you on what might be? Don't get me wrong, looks do matter to a degree. However, they are not the determining factor in it all.