I tried everything, and yet I can't get a girlfriend... Yet girls say I'm good looking?!

There's nothing wrong with you and you're absolutely right about not wanting to meet girls in bars. All I can really say is hang in there and maybe just take a break from the search. You're only 24 so what's the rush to settle down? The best way to get a girl in my opinion is for the guy just to completely be himself and enjoy life. The best pick up line is hi and most girls really do like to get to know the guy before they're asked out. You'll do fine and don't worry so much!

just a quick answer here. . don't give up. . everyone always tells me plenty of fish in the sea. . if they arnt willing to date you then make new friends with diff girls. . age shouldnt be the prob don't give up be sweet nice. don't act desperate. .just have fun . everything happens for a reason maybe none of these girls are likin you because the right one is out there wwaitin ya never know!

I don't think you're being realistic here. It sounds like you think there are women out there just dying to jump into a relationship because you fit the criteria. Nope.

The only thing you're doing wrong is expecting a timeline with this. Seriously, some people spend YEARS looking for the "right" one - it isn't as easy as saying that you're ready. I wish! If it was, this site wouldn't exist.
I don't know what it's like for a man, but I know for a women you have to go through LOADS of jerks just to find a decent man you want to just TALK to. So I'm sure as a man, you have to go through a ton of women just to find one that will even give you the time of day. There are tons of women out there looking for that special guy - but you just can't show up and expect them all to fall for you just because you think you fit the bill. It takes time. Be patient, I think you are expecting too much too soon, which is why you're getting discouraged. Don't see finding a woman as a job or a goal - be their friends first and let the relationship naturally progress.

Another thing - I'm wondering if you are only choosing a certain type of women. There could be plenty of women out there dying to give you a chance but you're not noticing them. Just wondering if you're looking at all your options.
Good luck and be patient. You've been away for 6 years, give yourself time to catch up.

Awwww…you probably are just trying a little too hard.

NOT that I’m saying you shouldn’t care! Just try a different approach. Here’s a little secret insight into the female mind that is almost unfair for me to share! Lol.

1. Women don’t like the guy who seems desperate. Vicious cycle I know, desperate because you can’t get a girl, can’t get a girl because you’re desperate. Totally unfair, but such is life.

2. Women like to have the guy that everybody wanted…but they want to feel secure with him.

So, to put an end to this cycle, you’re going to have to fake it a little. Don’t jump down her throat at the first opportunity to ask for her number. Wait a little, work it into a conversation, and act like it’s no big deal—like you do it to girls all the time. This will keep her guessing, and make you seem more desirable and confident.

Don’t be available every Friday night of the year for whenever she steps outside of her palace to visit. If you can’t get a life, fake it. For example, if she says “we should hang out sometime” the best response is NOT “Oh yes! We DEFINITELY should! I am free everyday this week, when can you come over?” FAIL. Instead, try “Yeah you’re right.” Look sideways across the room and then add “I’m kind of busy but yeah we should work something out. I’ll call you and let you know.” And THEN, do NOT call her the moment you are out of sight. Wait 2 days, and then call. By then she will have worked up a curiosity.”what’s going on with this guy? I thought he was interested but.?” Keep her guessing especially in the beginning, and save your awesome-boyfriend-who-always-calls-on-time for when you’re securely locked into the relationship.

Also, have female friends. You don’t have to date every girl you are in contact with. If you have lots of female friends, not only will it make you more secure, it will teach you some really valuable lessons about the female mind! So next time a girl turns you down or makes up an “excuse,” granted, she doesn’t want to date you, but don’t give her up as a friend! You really don’t want her going around to all the OTHER girls who are potential dating material and telling them what a social retard you are—not good for your image! Girl-friends are also nice for getting you together with their friends. If nothing else, because they feel bad about not wanting to date you themselves! So now that you know some girls, even if you don’t date all of them, keep them around!

Oh, and if you want to meet some really nice girls, try and find a singles group at a church. They are almost always about 80% women, and they are just about the cream of the crop too! You should be able to find SOMEONE who would go for a great guy like you out there! : )

Good luck! If you have more questions or if this didn’t answer your question quite right, please comment. THANKS. : )

~Katie~

when I first met my guy I was 18, he was 24, we've been together for 4 years now. we met in line at the grocery store. we didn't really talk that much at first, but he did ask me out, I said no because I had just met him. we kept bumping into each other and he eventually asked me out on a date again and I said yes, I decided that if the guy really liked me that much then why not and we even ordered the exact same thing at dinner. anyway, despite the rambling, my point is that age isn't neccessarily the issue, but college girls don't always want a relationship, that's why they're in college. they either want to get the degree for their dream job or they want to party. try going to book stores and coffee shops, or just going to dinner alone (be sure to dress nice, like it's a treat to yourself), some people think it makes them look pathetic to go to dinner alone, but it actually makes it easier to talk to other people there, like the cute waitresses, just don't come on to strong or you'll seem desperate and try not to go during the peak business hours, they may be too busy to chat. just don't get down because they say no, maybe they just need to get to know you more.

and if you do flirt with the waitresses, try to think of it as social training instead of trying to get a date, remember it's kind of their job to flirt with you so you'll leave a nice tip (which you should, it like your getting social therapy, 15-20% is not a bad price). and no I'm not a waitress, I just think about stuff alot. GOOD LUCK!

You might want to try finding a girl to a be friend with and not a date, just explain part of your story. Like how you have been away from women for 6 years and your looking for another friend other than a guy.

well I'm to young but I've read plenty of books. you sound like a gud man, any1 would be lucky. Mayb, because dey not ready for a relationship or are not up to your caliper. tru that sum club girls don't work out. if you want a gud girl shell come to u.

Oh don't feel that way sweetheart. I mean the truth is that most times you can't find a girlfriend until that girl is ready to find you. The universe is constantly moving and changing but you need to be patient. Most times that special someone finds you when you least expect it. I am going through a similar situation with the guys in my life but I have come to the conclusion that you can't rush perfection or what is meant to be. Its when you go out searching desperately is when you stumble on hard times. Just hang in there I understand that being single can be lonely but being stuck with someone who you really don't want is even lonelier.

Bambi xoxoxo

Ps. Even with the little bit of description you gave I can tell that your looks aren't anything to worry about.

Looks and money have this much ---> <--- to do with getting girls. It's all about personality and social savvy. If you want to learn how to generate attraction, pickup the book The Game by Neil Strauss to see what's possible. As for an actual how-to, I suggest his other book Rules of the Game. It's a very short 30 day workout program for your social skills. At the end of the 30 days you're almost guaranteed to get a date with women of your choosing. I also suggest reading The Mystery Method by Mystery and The Female Mind by Louann Brizendine.

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Maybe your approach to them is too desperate and needy? Your age might also be a problem, your 5-6 years older than these girls in first year courses, the only girls your gonna find that will be closer to you are in 3rd and 4th year courses. I think you gotta try joining clubs in college to find someone for you, not just class.

Also when your trying to find a girl, somehow there will be no girl for you. However if you try to improve yourself then somehow a girl will notice you and find you instead, well that's from my own experience.

Maybe you should try online dating to find someone instead of college.