Are girls afraid to date a guy who doesn't need them?

its not that I'm afraid.i just wont.why date someone who doesn't need me when I can find someone who does?

Most of us don't want to be with someone that seems to have no need for us. It's not a control thing, it's an affirmation thing. If they couldn't really care less if we're around, then why stick around?

I would say that some girls also want (reasonable) distance and need time on our own, what we don't appreciate is when a guy disappears for an unreasonable time.

Put yourself in our shoes, if you had been dating a girl for quite some time and all of a sudden she just dissapears wouldn't it be natural to at least wonder what happened to her? and why she just stopped existing?, would you even consider IMing her?

Well, afraid isn't the right word.. We're not AFRAID, but what girl wants to feel unwanted? Most girls tend to have low self-esteem, and most of us still strive towards that fairytale romance you see on the big screens. We don't want a jerk who treats us like we're as disposable as used napkins. You don't have to be clingy, but if you want your girl to stick around, try showing a little more appreciation for your lady.

Here's what I always say to my boyfriends, "I don't need you I want you" there's a big difference. I'd rather a guy not be needy because when you're with someone needed you tend to become one person. (You know where people say both your names like one big one like jessicaandjosh or something. ) Keeping your individual identities is the most important thing to me as I'm sure it is to other women. Being an individual doesn't mean ignoring the girl, it just means giving her space.

Needy guys are predictable, I like to be surprised. Guys that are needy are generally too emotional. Honestly, I have no problem boosting a man's ego, but if he is constantly needing me to enable him, I will enable him to be history.

You can control needy guys, but they suck the life out of you. I would much rather have a guy who chooses me over everyone else than a guy who needs me. Chances are if a guy needs you he probably need two or three other girls as well.

As a woman in her late twenties - I must say I would never date a man that needed me. You should never need anyone in your life, you should simply want them there.

I'm a firm believer that you must first be self sufficient and independent before embarking on developing potential long term relationships with others. - Do I want to feel appreciated and wanted, of course - who wouldn't? But needed, definitely not.

If a man were to relay to me that he "needed" me in his life, I would interpret this to mean that he has some sort of instability in his life that which I do not want to be a part of.

I like an independent man - its a good quality to have.

I wouldn't date a guy that didn't need me because then what would be the point in dating you I like to feel special and having a boyfriend that didn't need me would do the apposite

All women love to feel needed. May I suggest an article I wrote earlier? It's called the Art of Being a Woman, and it talks a little bit about what you're asking. Hope it helps.

No but they at least want to feel wanted I mean no one wants to be in a relationship where the other person doesn't want them. I mean I don't want a guy crying the second I leave and jumping with joy when I enter a room but I do want to be wanted. When I haven't seen them all weekend a nice kiss and "i missed you" will always make me smile.

I just want to feel wanted, not needed...my boyfriend says he'd kill himself if I was to die, and I hate that, no one should kill themselves, even if it is for love. I don't like have a lot of control, I prefer the guy to, but he has to be reasonable.

If a guy acts like he doesn't care whether I'm around or not, it's a big turnoff. if I feel like I'm just some replaceable girlfriend then I will start to Not care either (a.k.a. dump you)

Well just like love.. you need another person in your life, admit it or not its what you need.

I'm not gonna like.. your question confused the living hell out of me, but if you mean girls don't want guys that don't want them back. Yes, and no.

Why would I want a guy that not only thought nothing of me, but said he didn't need me?

I think I'm going with the guy that says my life would be NOTHING without him. because then do I not only feel wanted.. I AM wanted.