Taking back my cheating ex-girlfriend

I think she might be a type of chick that is polyamorous or something, like has to have sex with different people? Otherwise you can't really explain what she did. How could she not feel guilty, and only realise now that its wrong? Unless she is polyamorous or something. Well anyway, I think you have to work out if its okay with you that she often sleeps with other guys (I guess not), because it seems like its likely to happen again if its happened a few times and she hasn't felt guilty while being in a relationship with you.

I say KICK THAT LOSER TO THE CURB! I know you love her a lot and you have put a lot of time and work into the relationship, but she did not give it back to you. Instead of concentrating her energy on the relationship and telling you what she wanted, she made a conscious decision to to cheat. She made a choice.

Now, I'm not gonna say once a cheater, always a cheater because people can change with time. But it has to be their decision to do so, the same as it is your decision to accept her back into your life. I have the feeling that you never let her go and until you do that she will not respect you. That's why when you told her you could work it out, she continued a relationship that she should have left. She didn't respect you and I'm sorry that this happened to you cause you seem like a good person.

So good person, don't be a doormat. You were not put here on earth to be anyone's doormat. She hurt you badly, so it will always be in the back of your mind a trust issue. I think you need a nice woman, the one that is meant for you, that is yours and won't hurt you the way she did.

If that's not enough to sway your decision to leave her alone, then think of it this way;
1. She needs a place to stay, so of course she wants to make things work. When you put her out you disrupted her life so she has to start over again and get on her feet and actually work harder to get the things that she wants.
2. So if it helps you to not take her back, think about the one sided relationship that you were in. Taking care of her, not cheating on her and being used.
3. Don't look at the glass as half full, look at it as half empty in this case. The guy she was dealing with didn't want her cheating ass either. He wasn't going to wife her, so she had to go back to the person that would most likely take her back. YOU!
4. Learn this lesson, Love don't love nobody and it can't love you. LOVE is a word that can be used wrong. If she loved you she wouldn't have done it in the first place, but all is forgiven. If she loved you more with the threat of losing you she would not have cheated again. But she did and she carried on an emotional relationship with another man for 9 months. That ain't screamin love to me.

You are in love with a loser and you know what I tell losers: KICKROCKSLOSERS! She will not treat you better after this, she will treat you worse. When she gets on her feet again, then she will totally leave you for another guy. If she doesn't leave you for another guy, your mistrust of her will cause your insecurities which will run her away or force her to cheat you again.

You have to think really hard about the relationship you had with her. Think about what you like about her and the relationship and what you don't like. Maybe even go on a few dates with other people, see how that makes you feel. If you decide your relationship with her is worth everything you've been through then talk to her, find out why she cheated (she probably did it because she needed something that you weren't giving to her and you didn't realize she needed it). Find out what you both need to do to be happy in the relationship and work through your issues. If you can both do that then you will have a stronger relationship then before.

sry for ur plight but seriously..dump her if you know wats good for u..sure the feelings are there and whatever we say will definitely be damn hard to put into action but trust me..u won't want to always look over ur shoulder and keep second-guessing her motives and actions all ur life..u've been with her for so many years and you might feel its a pity that its gonna be over and you might be tempted to forgive her and overlook this matter but deep inside u'll always feel insecure..do the right thing man..we'll all be behind you 101%!

Been there, Doin this.

First, sorry for you being the target. It sucks. I know.

Women like this are adorable, seductive, tempting and love playing in traffic. Trouble is, they need a safety net. That's what you are and that's what you like.

My theory is: first time=mistake/forgive and don't let it happen again, second time=major problem/drastic measures/it's on you now to fix it, third time=you like the abuse.

Good luck. Don't be me. 52, single, alone; getting a text that she has "moved on" and is getting married to a guy 17 years younger than me.

I had a similar thing happen to me when I was a little bit younger than you. So speaking from experience, here in lies the rub.

Do you trust her?

If you don't trust her, then there is no relationship. Do you want to remain with her, then snopping around, checking she isn't off with another guy?

If you do think you can trust her then there is hope, and that's worth the try.

What happended to me, is I dumped her. I had a really shit 2 years (but did a lot of traveling, life experience that sort of thing.) and now have been with a girl for 8 years.

The old girl friends, I don't keep in contact with, but through friends I know she got other BFs and did the same to them (cheated). She's now a single mother. So, I think I did made the right descision.

get out while you still can! trust me mate I've been cheated on and its something that you will never get over trust me.

Dude, cut the cord. Don't answer her email anymore, delete your account if you have to. She was screwing another guy while in a serious relationship with you, what make you so sure that she won't treat you like a ragged doll again. You can't trust her, don't roll the dice thrice.

dude if she was living with you that means you were the one who has the power, it seems you are able to live a life without her if you can manage a home and a car. she cheated on you and she lived a 2nd life I would never take my ex back if she ever did that to me. I will grieve but will look into the future and find me a girl who will respect me and will love me the same way I will love her. don't take her back don't communicate with her cause maybe she only wants to be with you for your money. you in your 20's you will find a better girl and its better to be single.

you don't have to wake up early just sleep all day

go to work and work overnights without the girl telling you to go home

your not tied down to one person and can spend your time with your friends and date other girls.

it seems you have a bright future for yourself and you will find a girl a special girl just for you

Hey man!
I know exactly what you're talking about. been there, done that! I personnally think that if she was able to do the same thing twice to the same person, it's because she didn't learn her lesson the first time. If she was able to hurt you twice, what would stop her from doing it again? She knows you would forgive her anyways, you've forgiven her in the past for the same thing!

I had a girlfriend that was cheating on me. she never admitted it but her own friends told me she was. I was stubborn enough to try and stay with her and work things out but we finally broke up. I then realized that I would have lived unhappy and unsecure if I would have stayed with her. You might have strong feelings for her but believe me, you will feel it inside of you if you think she still thinks of cheating and it is not a nice feeling!

I don't believe in cheating. If she was not happy with you for any reason, she should have left you to see what it feels like with someone else and then maybe come back to you, instead of hiding it from you. THAT would have proven that she truly loves you and the fact that she cheated on you twice only proves the opposite.

If you FEEL that she could be faithful from now on, I sincerely wish she could do it, but to be honnest with you, I really doubt it could happen based on what you told us.

It hurts I know but you already know the answer to your own situation. I know you love her and right now you think that there is no one else out there that you can be happy with. The whole soul mates thing is a bunch of bull. There is not one person out there who is perfect for you there are several that would be perfect for you. Lucky us huh especially since us guys never get anything right. Lately I have come to realized that all no matter how hard guys like us try to be nice it seems hopeless because there are guys out there like the one your girlfriend cheated on you with who make us look bad and make it hard for us to have a fighting chance. There is someone else out there. Guys or girls when they cheat sure you can take them back but if you put up with it, it just shows them that they can do it again and you will take them back. It hurts it really does I know how you feel but it will hurt more taking her back and having it happen again. I made the mistake of putting all of my trust in someone one time and had it shoved back in my face. I think the main problem is I'm getting tired. Nobody loves anyone like they used to the old ways are all breaking down. We live in a world cheating is ok divorce is convenient. There is someone else out there who will respect you and appreciate you more. Its hard but try to move on. Good Luck