Should I tell her boyfriend she cheated on him with me?

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So me and this girl met over the summer and hit it off good, we talked constantly and hung out a lot, I did not want to really get involved with her because she had a boyfriend but she wanted to keep going, so I did too.  I ended up falling in love with her and she loved me to.  The farthest we went was making out but we were going to go further (she wanted to give me head and have sex) but I said no, then I finally didn't care and said yes.  But when I said that we can was the last day I saw her.  Its been three months since I have even seen her.  She keeps bailing on me, not putting an effort into seeing me, leading me on, and teasing me.  She said she feels guilty that we haven't hung out and just wants to be friends, so I said ok that's fine, and even being friends she is lying to me, giving me all these bull shit excuses.   She didn't care anymore about how I felt and she would just leave me hanging and the next day I would say something about it and somehow shed make me believe her bullshit stories.  But now I'm done with her shit and over her.  Should I tell her boyfriend she cheated on him with me, yes no? and I have proof of her sending me dirty pics, aim convos confessing everything about her loving me and saying bad stuff about her boyfriend, and even a phone bill showing we texted like 10,000 times in one month. so any suggestions, the only way I can tell him is on facebook.i don't have his cell or anything

faberfan · Accepted Answer

Ah, revenge, how sweet it is; bittersweet that is.

Honestly you should of known what you were getting into with this one. She cheated on him, and she would have cheated on you. That's the nature of the beast.

So, do you want to ruin this relationship with her b/f? Her boyfriend should honestly know of her snake like tendencies. Of course he will no doubt retaliate in a violent way towards both of you, again, that's the nature of the beast.

I guess it boils down to what's right. If my ex had cheated on me, I would want to know about it even from the other guy. So maybe I am wrong, maybe it's not revenge at hand, maybe its karma.

If you are going to regret it then don't do it, if you won't regret it then go ahead. It all comes down to what's right and what you feel you should do.

And for future reference I'd stay away from taken girls, even if they want to jump your bones.

jointhebox · Accepted Answer

Not unless you want to end up copping one to the face from her boyfriend.

whatever you do, it WILL end badly. duh!

even if you do end up with her, there's no telling if she'll do the same to you. that's if she'd want to get with you after she finds out you broke up their relationship (if you can call it that)

look, maybe it was just a fling and she was bored with her boyfriend or there were problems at the time, but one things for certain, if she's still with him then she doesn't want to loose him and I hate to say it but some things are better left unknown.

ps. don't let revenge fill you. TRUST ME.

ally55678 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, this sounds like a tough situation. But I've seen first hand that revenge is never as sweet as it is when you first think about it and when you actually do it. My boyfriend pulled a similar move on my friend (they dislike each other greatly), and told her boyfriend that she's been messaging this guy on facebook. And in the end the boyfriend didn't even care.

I was soo pissed off at him, I've never seen such a childish move since gradeschool.

My suggestion is to rise above that, to be the better person and forget this girl! She's a two-timer and there are way more girls out there for you. Why would you want to be with a person who sweeps you under the rug, or is her secret in the closet. Forget that sh!t man. You want a girl who will treat you well and make you feel like number one. You gotta believe me that you are better than that!

Atomizer · Answer

"But she lies to me, I ask her to hang out and she says she's grounded, but she still goes out, should I tell her what I think or what?"

There's a lot of truth to the old saying:

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

How many times do you need to get burned before you realize it's better to avoid the fire?

Atomizer · Answer

I suggest you don't tell him. And I suggest you forget about this girl and move on with your life. She's a player.

If she's a player, he'll figure it out eventually. He probably knows.

If you want to hurt her or stir up trouble, there are better ways to pass your time.

Be better than her. Find a girl who doesn't jerk you around.

raz0rblastz · Answer

ur fault for doing it with an attached girl.but sure if it makes you feel better go ahead.btw.i'll try not to use facebook to tell him.cuz she might intercept it

Anonymous · Answer

Mate tell him, He probably would have the shits at you but he deserves to know, bros b4 hoes man !

Anonymous · Answer

i wouldnt. I mean if she wants to say something to him, good for her. but its over with. I would just forget about her!

Anonymous · Answer

yes, tell him.

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