How the hell do I get over this guy?!?

Yes, that fits the definition of manipulation classically. To get over this guy is simple really. Stay away from him. I understand that you feel dependent upon him, otherwise you wouldn't stay around for this abuse.

However, at a certain point you have to realize that in order to function you need to respect yourself. You need to take a stand and tell him to blow off, and get away yourself. That's it. It may hurt for awhile, but you've taken the first step by creating distance. After that, it takes time and experience to get yourself away from the mindset he has built into you.

The important part is to stay strong, separate yourself from the disease and drive on.

Good luck!

Besides God, you know who is the only person who has the responsibility of looking out for you? The answer is you! You know who determines how other people will treat you in life? You! Nobody can make you feel stupid, ugly, untalented ect. without your permission, in fact nobody can make you feel anything at all. We choose how we are going to feel and react to situations. You are in charge of your feelings and emotions. Sure people can treat you less than fairly and shame on them for doing so, but after that it's you responsibility to act from there. When someone treats you badly, manipulates you, or takes advantage of you ect. it's up to you to put a stop to it. Relying on the mercy and good will of an individual like the one you described here is not a good idea. Continuing to be involved with him is an even worse idea. Anyone who would attempt to treat me the way you described the guy treating you is not someone I need in my life. Since I'm in charge of me, I set boundaries in my relationships. One of my boundaries is if you cheat on me, your gone no ifs, ands, or buts. I feel I'm worthy of faithfulness and I demand it. I think it might do you well to feel the same way about yourself. I also feel I'm worthy of being treated respectfully and fairly. If you treat me otherwise after I have made it known I don't appericate your behavior, once again I dump you. It sounds like you need to establish healthy boundaries for yourself. Ask yourself, do I feel I am worthy of being treated fairly and with respect, or is it ok for people to treat me divisively, manipulate me, and cheat on me? I don't know what your answer is, but it is not ok for people to treat me like that, and since I know it's my job to take care of me, I tell people who attempt to treat me like that good-by. No one can take advantage of you unless you allow them too, and no one is going to take care of you like you will take care of yourself. Do yourself a favor, get rid of this guy and any guy in the future who treats you like that, otherwise you will only have yourself to blame! I hope this helps you. Sorry you had to go through what you did, but now it's time to set healthy boundaries for how you will allow others to treat you. You can't change the past, but you can work on a better future. Best of luck!

If you're still together with this guy, or talking with him, just completely cut off all contact. Tell him you're done playing games and being used, and just hang up. Screen his calls, block his texts, don't answer the door, just end it.

If you aren't with him anymore, I think you have to give it time. There really aren't very many things that can be done to ease the pain of bad relationships, other than growing from them.

first thing you need to do is try to stop seeing him second thing is find someone who care about you and take care of you someone when you even you make a mistake you don't need to appolgize because he'll understand that you didn't mean it .try to find someone else is the best solution.

dump himmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

Find someone else. I know it's hard but please try to do that.

omg girl I'm going through the saaammee thing! You absolutelty need to stay strong and I know its hard and its going to be hard for awhile but the best advice I would give you is to be strong! If he texts you or calls DONT text or call back. Just trust me he thinks he owns you and he knows he has you. Give him the impression that he DOESNT! Turn it around on him! But guys like that never change just trust me, they dont. Its what they're used to and it's how they will always be. They love attention and feeling like they are "In Control" at all times. My ex used to always F* up and then turn it around on me so I felt guilty of accusing. He is a manipulator and so is yours.

Please get out of it while you still can. I know you prob love him but you or I don't deserve that. ANND he cheated! So did mine! more than once! but you know the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" Since you forgave him for it once, trust me he will do it again.

Im sorry if I sound negative but I'm going through exactly everything that your going through! I'm slowly trying to lose him because it is hard. But I kno what's best for me.

He emotionally destoyed you but you can gain that back as I am learning now. Not ALL guys are like that. Its kinda like shopping. You need to shop around to find out what you really want because I'm sure your like me and he was your first "everything" which is why he has that hold on you.
I hope I helped you alittle!

Do you still love him?
Or do you just miss his company? Since you two have known each other for 4 years.
Maybe that is what's making it hard for you to move on.
He knows he has control over you, in some way. He can hurt you, and know how to make it better. He knows he can win you back anytime he wants.
I think what you have to figure out is how you really feel. And what you really want.
Can you picture yourself with this guy in the future? As your husband maybe? Would you be happy?
If you think you will end up miserable with this guy, then you really have to be strong and move on. Unless you don't mind settling.
It might seem like something you need, now, but think about the long run. Will you be happy?
If he is manipulative, then ignore his calls, texts, emails, everything! Totally delete him from your life. All contacts. And make sure to avoid places he might be in. Do that until you know you are totally over him. And strong enough to reject him when you see him in person. It might take weeks, or months. But guys like him are hard to run away from.
But before you decide to delete him from your life, you have to figure YOURSELF out first. What is it that you really want. Then you can focus on what you are going to do next, to get what you want.
Either, a life without him, or with him.

be gd 2 yourself and love yourself enough 2 avoid that emotional disaster.how do you expect a guy 2 treat you rt and love you the way you wanna be loved if you don't love yourself enough 2 defend yourself (ur dignity).if you want respect and sm1 treatin you rt never put yourself in such a relationship.
when you keep forgiving ngetting bk wth this guy just cz you claim that he has changed (while I think you were hoping and wishing 4 that 2 be true and that you definately knew that nthn changed at all).u're just telling him "here I cm again.break what's left of me".cm'on dear.

u're asking how 2 get over such a guy?.what's so gd abt him 2 make you get attached 2 him in the 1st place?.he's cheatin around.(n that alone should be enough 4 you 2 dump him).he keep on hurting and wrecking you in every chance he gets!.so plz try 2 explain 2 me and make me understand what do you want more from him 2 do 2 you that'll convince you or urge you 2 leave him?what are you waiting 4 exactelly?.physical abuse?violence?

plz dear, if you don't love yourself enough 2 think that you deserve better than that ?better 2 have a nice stable relationship wth sm 1 who really cares abt you and respect u?.then at least do it 4 the people who really cares abt you (ur family & friends).am sure they're so broken hearted abt what u're doing 2 yourself.so u're not just hurting yourself by being wth him u're also hurrting the people around you .the people who really care abt ur happiness.

right would say that is righ word. I definately think it would best for you to lose all contact with at least for a good while to give you time to work on you & that way he won't be able to manipulate you anymore. hopefully with him out of the picture you can start to build ur self-esteem back up & eventually start dating again so you came know what it feels like to be treated right & respected & not taken for granted. its gonna take so time to build ur self-esteem back up but with positive people around you it shouldnt be a problem. good luck & I hope I helped.