I need to know should I sit back and wait?

I agree with r3 that it's not one person's fault.

My question to you is, why were you picking nonsense fights with him when you know he's spends such a long time away from home?

I'll just put this out there. Girls, when guys come home, the last thing we want to here is a bunch of bickering or story telling the minute we come in the door. We don't want to convo right away. Think about it, we JUST got done probably driving 30 minutes to an hour home. If were not driving, it's two hours on the bus or in a carpool. We worked an eight hour or longer shift prior to that, and had the same commute time in the morning to get there.

We come in the door with our hands full of stuff. Do you think we are in the mind frame to talk about what mistakes we made in the morning before work or discuss your issues from your job? NO! Let us put that stuff away, let us use the restroom, let us get a glass of water. Let us breathe for an extended amount of minutes!

Once we have had a chance to unwind, then we can talk with you, we can listen to you empathetically, and if you so desire, give some feedback on what we would if we were in the same situation. Oh, and we can fix our mistakes from our rush out the door earlier.

I'm willing to bet that's how you started your fights, right as he came in the door. It's not the fight necessarily, it's always scenario. When the guy tells the story back to his friend, it always starts the same way. "AS SOON AS I OPENED THAT DOOR, SHE WENT ON AND ON AND ON!" Sometimes he'll mention what it was about, but not usually. It's always the scenario. Whether it's coming through the door, or using the restroom, or when using the phone.

I can appreciate we owe you something in the relationship, but let us finish our business and we can attend to your needs without interruption. You don't always have to sling your complaints out as soon as they come to mind and the guy is there. If they are important, are you really going to forget them?

If you act more supportive of him, and show him you really care, and realize he's doing something that's going to benefit the both of you, it will work out.

i think ur takin too much of the blame. its not all ur fault but its not all his either. I also agree some time apart is best for right now. like you said he's gotta lot going on right now & with you picking fights with him & ur bickering, its not helping the situation. just what, when he's ready he'll come to u. but after a certain amount of time(for example at least a month & half) of no communication, then its time to move on. good luck & I hope I helped.