Why do women flake out?

Question

Most women I meet in the beginning are really cool then out of no where they begin to flake out.  They become insecure, or they can't get over their exboyfriend, or they  just go insane!?  where can I find someone who knows what the hell they want?

Lifeson · Answer

Most girls want a shoulder to cry on, someone to protect and care for them, someone to lead them and someone to have sex with, that's the four main things that girls are looking for. The reason that these girls start off fine but then go crazy is because they need that shoulder to cry on, to vent their insecurites and their issues. There is an exception with flaking out. At that point, the girl's insecurities get the better of her and she stops wanting to talk to you in fear of rejection. In the other cases a girl starts off all cool because she can't just start throwing her issues at you; she has no idea who you are and what you will do with that information. She needs to make sure that you will do her no harm and that you aren't just going to run off. What you are experincing with these girls is in all girls to some degree. every girll is somewhat insecure and has some issues and they just want someone to listen to them. So every girl you meet will have issues of some kind and want to talk about them and its all a part of the relationship you are trying to build. This is just one of the four things that a girl wants.

Delete1313 · Answer

Some women just want a guy as a friend.  Once you come on too strong they get scared.  Once you cross over the friendship line it gets tricky.  I've flaked out many times.  Mostly with guys who are super clingy and pour out their everything in a matter of days.  I believe friends first, but don't get too involved as a friend if a woman is highly damaged.  They will take what they want when they can and push the rest away because they can't decided how they feel.  Don't know if any of this helps, but if you wanna talk about it more hit me up.

mmgood313 · Answer

Maybe you're coming on too strong and they just want to take it slow and keep things light.

Are you really set on finding a girlfriend at the moment? If so, you might be coming off as desperate, which is why you're scaring them away. I have similar problem with men. Maybe you should try spending more time on yourself and your hobbies and eventually you will find someone with the same interests. Sometimes it's easier to let things just happen then force something that's not working for either one of you.

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