A series of questions for women about their behaviors

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ooo this looks like fun. also be aware of tying mistakes because my computer is being sooo annoying. o ya also age:16

1. Why do women bring up old issues that happened months ago?

maybe they want to use the issue to prove a point.
also maybe they want to emphasize the fact that the issue hurt/ment something -i don't want to say hurt but I can't think of a word- to them.
usually they just want to remind someone that they were wrong.
or we haven't gotten the reaction that we thought we deserved from the wrong do-er of the situation. (eg an apology, explaination, statement of regret etc etc)

2. Why do women say "I'm fine" when her boyfriend asks her what's wrong, when they both know she's not "fine"? Why doesn't she just tell us, instead of waiting?

because sometimes she wants to be pushed to tell. it might make her feel more loved or she just might be having second thoughts about telling. or sometimes she might think that the boyfriend should know. or she just wants attention / tlc. or maybe she just doesn't want to tell.

3. Why do most women always feel the need to be in a relationship?

i don't alll the time. so yeah. but women do cus they want to feel loved, wanted and beautiful. or sometimes they just want someone to show off (this sounds really mean) but someone like a prize. but I htink that's mostly mean women. also they want to feel safe and cozy.


4. Have you ever cheated on your past or present boyfriend(s)?
No

5. Do you believe "once a cheater, always a cheater"?
Yes. my best friend just got back with her boyfriend who cheated on her. I was against it to say the least.

6. Do you eventually want to get married?
yes

7. What is the first thing that attracts you to a man: Physically and Personality wise?
physically : 1. eyes personality: polite sweet and smart (yest they have to be a combination)

8. Why do women "always gossip"?
so we don't have to waste time watching tv, its like semi-live entertainment hehe lol.

9. Do you really tell your best friends everything about your relationship?
kinda, except for anything embarassing/ that might make me feel ashamed.

10. Why are women always checking their makeup or "powdering their nose"?

because when make up 'droops'/smudges/sinks you can look horrible! and then when you went it looking semi natural/ clean cut you can end up looking fake and, well, yucky! so you have to check and touch up to maintain the look you had b4 lol. also we just might wnt to get anway from someone

11. At what age do you want kids, if any at all?
definately not b4 26. but preferably 28/29/30.

12. What's one question you would never ask your boyfriend, because you don't want to know the answer?
''am I the prettiest/nicest/coolest/most fun (etc etc) girl youve ever dated?''

13. What's one question you would never ask your boyfriend, but you want to know the answer? Why wouldn't you ask?
how much he likes me. wouldn't ask cus it looks clingy or might scare him off.

24. Probably the same reason we are! It's scary to give up a part of ourselves for the sake of another.

25. Strip clubs if it's with a group of guys (like for a bachelor party). Going by yourself... that's kinda creepy. Pornography- no way. It's like cheating in your mind- fantasizing about other women. And if a thought is repeated too much, it becomes an action. So, no.

26. Haha, well... I guess objectively speaking, yes. If you're too small we don't really feel anything... At least so I've been told. :P But if the relationship have a strong foundation and you are really in love with each other, then no.

27. We do? I like to let things unfold at their own pace. BUt... hm. Maybe she is concerned about getting too caught up emotionally with you. She doesn't want to fall too deeply in love, get too committed, put her life on hold, for someone she may not be sure feels the same way. I don't think things like this should come up if there is good communication on a daily basis.

1. Probably because we feel that the issues have not been resolved. Or the issues are being repeated
2 A lot of times we don't think that he is really interested or cares, so we figure that if he persists in knowing, that means he is genuine and not just annoyed with our attitude. Also, some women have a fear that men find us too emotional and touchy, so they try not to make a big deal out of things. Neither of these reasons make it the right thing to do- it's not. Honesty and openness are very important on both sides. If a woman doesn't feel she can be honest with her man, that may mean there are some deeper connection problems.
3 Well... that's certainly not me. I am 24 and have never had a boyfriend and have never felt less because of it. However, I suppose there is something to be said for... ego, pride. it's nice to know someone finds you attractive, wants to cherish you, get to know you. My guess is that some women want desperately to feel valued, and sadly can't do that through their own feelings of self-worth (or lack thereof).
4 ha, see #3 ^^ but no.
5 No. I believe in giving second chances. But not thirds.
6 Depends on finding someone I REALLY want to spend my life with. I don't want to marry just for the sake of marriage.
7 Physically: height and a good sense of style
Personality: friendly and open with an easy laugh... and a gentleman. We want to feel at ease, but also that we are cherished.
8 Mm... don't men as well? You should see some of my guy friends! I don't like gossiping, personally. But I will talk about things that are bothering me on a personal level.
9 No. We tell them a lot, but not everything. Some things are best left between two people, some things cannot be expressed, and some thing cannot be understood.
10 Uh, again. Not me. But... an excuse to leave for a moment? Because they want to make sure they still look pretty for you? Nervous habit?
11 Not sure I want kids, and will probably adopt if I do. If that ever happens... some where in the mid- 30's probably.
12 The thing he finds the most physically unattractive about me. But I had an eating disorder for five years so maybe my paranoias are still a bit skewed...
13 Not sure. If I want to know, there's not much I don't feel comfortable asking. Assuming I am also comfortable with my boyfriend.
14 Yes. To know how high the risk is of him carrying stds. And just healthy curiosity.
15 Yes.
16 When it is forced or insincere. We want romance, but if it's awkward for you to be romantic, don't push it! Then it just seems like a show. Keep it real.
17 Yes. To show me you're a man.
18 Communication. If you don't want to talk about something, at least tell us why. We'll respect that.
19 Not all guys do this but: belittling women / superiority complexes. Sorry boys. We actually don't have penis envy.
20 Be completely himself and accept everything about me. Surprise visits are good too!
21 Treat me like an object. Or a child.
22 ?
23 Depends if it was a clean breakup

1. Because they're idiots. Once an issue is resolved, leave it alone!
2. "I'm fine" is never a good answer. If you have a problem but you're not ready to discuss it, tell him that. He will respect it and give you space until you're ready. If it doesn't matter in 72 hours, it wasn't worth the discussion. If a woman states, "I'm fine" and continues to brood, she is being manipulate. I think men call this mind games, right?
3. Only women lacking confidence in themselves feel that way. A truly independent women does not define her happiness by whether or not she has a date on Saturday night.
4. Yes, once, and I don't condone it nor have I done it again. However, I was not in love and less mature. No, he never found out.
5. Generally, yes. However, in rare instances I think you can be in an unhappy relationship, find someone else you have a strong connection to and leave the unhappy relationship to be with the new person and never stray again. You owe it to the spouse to separate first.
6. Yes. Would not settle just to be with someone, though.
7. Looks first, personality a very fast second. I have met some average-looking men that I became attracted to after having a conversation. Similarly, I have met gorgeous men that should have been born mute.
8. Bonding. It's fun as long as it's not vicious or about other friends not present.

1. Sometimes closure to see if the man has learned a lesson and/or to remind him that we remember and he is to never do it again.
2. Maybe she knows in her head that she is wrong and she'd rather not be made a fool of. Either that or she's hoping her mood will pass and avoid argument.
3. Security and protection. It's nice to be loved.
4. No.
5. If he didn't cheat on me, I'd listen to his reasons and perhaps forgive him. If he cheated on me, he is out the door.
6. I will have to see how financially stable I am in my future.
7. The way he dresses, his height, and his hair. Personality wise, he has to be very sweet and courteous.
8. Women like to talk and they will talk about anything that is on their minds.
9. No. I skip most details.
10. I am not.
11. I'm not a fan of children, so I can't make a decision on this yet. If I marry a man whom I really love and we are stable enough, then perhaps I will change my mind.
12. Generally any details about his past sex life and about the girls he's been with.
13. These same questions as in #12. I want to know, but I don't want to know. I wouldn't ask because I know I would become self conscious and jealous.
14. Yes. I'd like to know how far around he has gotten. If the number is too ridiculous I may have to reconsider.
15. Yes I do. I was a virgin before my previous boyfriend and he knows it.
16. This has never happened to me.
17. Yes because they are the stronger sex and should be more assertive.
18. I wish he'd pamper me more. I know he would if he had the means.
19. I wish they weren't so influenced by society and what people think when they see a man show weaknesses.
20. Be very sweet and caring.
21. Just be very mean.
22. Hmm, decreased hang out time and sketchiness.
23. This has several determining factors, including, but not limited to: how close you and your friend are, why you and the man broke up, how close you were before you broke up, whether you're still friends, etc.
24. Yes, probably.
25. Strip clubs -- only if I went with him. Porn -- very OK. I watch it myself all the time.
26. If it's a fling, probably yes. If it's a boyfriend whom I love, not at all.
27. Women like to be reassured about everything in their lives. Change is hard to handle unless it's for the better and women are desperate to know what to expect.

I have answers to about two of those:

27. Women are insecure about themselves and are unsure about their very own emotions. By talking about their relationship they may either giving themselves confidence in their love for their partner or may even be fishing for something wrong with the relationship, to fulfill their suspicions of the incapability for a happy ending in their lives.

14. Yes and no. Yes because out of curiosity and sometimes necessity, women want to determine if their man is a player or maybe the complete opposite. No because there are some things, even when asked, should never be said. Their opinion could very well change just from that one question and give them doubts about their relationship, or even get them hurt.

Age:19
1. It still bothers us, 2. Too upset or angry to talk, or wants attention,3. I think from romantic movies,books, and seeing family members that way. 4.no 5.no.6.I am married7.Physical height and face ^^ 8. just do I don't know why.we like drama? 9.no 10. a self-esteem thing, you want to look your best incase you see someone you know or someone that is cute 11. 24ish 12. Was he more attracted to me when we met or now that we have been married for a year. 13. If he likes going down on me ( does it smell/taste good or bad to him) because what if he says it's bad? 14. yes so I know what type of guy he is (player or long relationship type) 15. yes16. When the guy is so romantic that it is on the point of being a wimp all the time. 17. yes, just shows he is the man and likes to take charge. (hehe romance novels are always like that) 18. Now days? Being respectful to women and have a job instead of acting all "gangsta" and "thug"19. Honestly I don't know. Didn't really understand this one o.O 20.Beat someone up that is being mean to an animal or somebody being picked on that can't defend themselves ^^ 21. Not helping themselves. If they have the attitude that everything in the world is everyone elses fault or they pity themselves and do nothing to change it. BIG turn off. 22.Not sure never cheated but I would say staying out late all the time? 23. yes, if it is my ex I am done with him so no issues (unless he would hurt her or cheat on her) 24. They like to party and pick up girls, they don't want to be "whipped" as they would put it. 25. Yes, I like to go too ^^ 26. Honestly no, if a man is smaller but is awsome at arousing and forplaying then who cares about size (plus having a huge size hurts)27.there is always room for improvment and maybe only the guy thinks it is fine and there is something wrong in it for the girl. Maybe she wants to work on it.

I just had to post this one --

27. Why do women always insist on talking about the relationship, and "where it's going" when things are going just fine – because most women have wasted their time in relationships that went no where for years with a guy who had no intentions towards marriage or making a real commitment. After a while, playing house gets old and you want more. This means that they have to know where the guys head is at. If he isn’t seeking marriage then it is fair to let her know, especially if that is her goal. After a period of time, the guys should know if he wants to get married or not. If he can’t decide, then the girl has the right to seek after a man who is more certain of where he wants to go relationship wise before more time goes by.

I had to put my Answers in an email and send it to you on here--this thing wouldn't le me do much more--ir regards to size--no-I had a guy who was twelve and it frickign HURT like hell--I HATED sex with him. six to eight is great -- little known fact--women have various sizes internally just as men have it externally -- this is natures grand design--so if you don't mesh with a girl it may be the wrong one physically.

First of all, a lot of these questions are probably gonna have very varied results, but I'm gonna try to help you out
9. My friends and I are very close, but there are some things about my relationship that I would never tell them. I think every girl needs her little secrets and just a little privacy sometimes. Even your best friends don't need every aspect of you and your boyfriend.

11. The age I want kids also depends on my partners age. I would say around 28-32 is a good age to have children.

23. I think its fine for your friend to date your ex. After all, there is probably a good reason they are your ex.


I hope I at least helped someone somewhere.

25. No. It makes me feel self conscious and ugly. My boyfriend understands this and doesn't watch porn. I love him so much for that.

26. Yes. I don't mean you have to be big, I mean you have to be the right size for the girl. I'm not sure about sizes, but I think my boy is about average. He fits inside me perfectly. Anything bigger is too big.

27. She want to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with her :).

1. Like lots of other people have said, it probably still bothers us, we're not sure if it has been completely resolved, or we want to make a point.

2. She likes it when you pay attention to her enough to realize she is NOT fine without her having to tell you. She may feel what is bothering her is stupid and doesn't want to tell you, or she may want to see how much you care, if you spend time trying to find out what is wrong.

3. Well, I don't. There could be a number of reasons. All of her friends are in a relationship and she feels left out. She is missing feeling loved, being kissed, being hugged. Women love attention.

4. Yes. Messed up as it is, I cheated on my past boyfriend with my current boyfriend, and then I cheated on my current boyfriend with my past boyfriend. The only reason I cheated on my current boyfriend is because I was confused. It's a long distance relationship, and my past boyfriend was close. He was always coming around to my house and giving me attention. Since I couldn't see my boyfriend, this confuses me a lot. Not much happened at all because I knew I shouldn't have been doing it, and hated doing it. My boyfriend knows it happens and he knows how much I regret it. He forgave me.

5. No I do not. I would never cheat on the boy I am with again.

6. Yes. I want to marry the boy I am with. I don't care if I am young, I am in love with him, and I don't know if I will ever again find someone as perfect to me as he is.

7. Physically, the way they are dressed. Personality, they treat me well.

8. I don't. I have no idea to be honest.

9. Nope. I tell her most things but there's some things I'd like to spare her. :P

10. I don't wear make up. However, it's because they feel make up makes them prettier and they think guys like it. My boyfriend doesn't. I'm confident with who I am.

11. I don't want kids, mainly because I am scared of childbirth.

12. I'd ask him anything.

13. ^

14. Yes I would. I'm not sure why. My current boyfriend hasn't slept with anyone other than me, and I'm very happy with that.

15. I tell the truth. I've slept with one other person.

16. Women want romance from a man they love. If they get it from someone they don't love it can be quite intimidating. If you're making her feel like you like her more than she likes you, that will intimidate her too.

17. Yes, because we're nervous :). We know you're nervous too, but you're MEN. You should deal with it :).

18. Well, coming from personal experience, when you're asked to help tidy up, HELP tidy up. Or it'll piss her o